(Closed) Biggest Etiquette blunders you’ve encountered?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Mother-In-Law invited people to our engagement party and my bridal shower that weren’t invited to the wedding. There’s been other little comments here and there, but that was the worst.

Post # 4
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1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Let’s see – I got an invitation with a card that said this “No registry has been created. Monetary gifts will be accepted.” I went to an engagement party/housewarming and brought a giftcard and did not recieve a thank you note, call, card nothing. Same for the gift I bought for the bridal shower. I’ll keep you posted on if I get a thank you for the wedding that is on Good Friday…

Post # 5
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was in my BF’s wedding two years ago. It was out in California, and I must have spent over 1,000.00 to be in her wedding. I never received a written or verbal Thank You for her shower gift, wedding gift, or for just being in her wedding . To this day, it still ticks me off when I think about it.

Post # 6
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow I havent had any of these to date.. but these are some pretty bad ones.

Post # 7
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Old friend of mine got married last summer. On her wedding website she suggested pre-loaded VISA gift cards (I know that hints of a preference of monetary gifts is acceptable, but she was basically like, please don’t give less than $20). Her reception was at a nice restaurant- and we all paid for our own meal. The mother of the groom wore a beautiful, long….white dress. Classy event.

Post # 8
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

a friend of a friend got married last year and put a note on their website that said “please consider making a donation to defray our costs” and then it had button you could click to make online donations 5 months before the wedding!!

Post # 9
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I went to a shower where guests were asked to address their own envelopes for their thank-you cards.

Post # 10
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No way!!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@waves2- I had the same experience for my college roomie!  I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding and planned the shower and bachelorette(which is part of the Maid/Matron of Honor duties).  I shelled out over $1000.00 for everything and never even got a thank you note for any gifts or any of the time I spent working on her parties.  It was only me and one other Bridesmaid or Best Man that even attended the bachelorette and she said “i’ll throw you some bucks later, I’m broke right now”… needless to say, I never saw ANY “bucks” from her! RUDE!

Post # 12
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540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

guests wearing white and people self-inviting… not cool.

Post # 13
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925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Mrs.Oat: I have been to a shower where they did the same thing. And the funny thing is, that was the only thank you card I got–I did not receive one for the actual wedding. I guess if we don’t address our own cards, it’s too much work for the bride…

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think the paying for your own meal for the reception is the worst so far.  I am personally not that worried about thank you’s (as in I will send them out, but I’m not worried if I don’t get one) but paying for the reception dinner is crazy. I’ve also filled out address for the thank you in just about every shower I’ve been to.  Usually they draw an envelope out of a basket and you get a gift or something.  It always trips me out to see my own handwriting when I get it back though.

 

Post # 15
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I got a generic preprinted thank you card from a wedding that said “Thank you for your presence and your presents” seriously, I thought that was very tacky!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Mrs.Oat: I have been to a baby shower where we were asked to do this. We have still not received a thank you card, the baby will be 3 years old in Fall.

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