(Closed) Biggest lesson you've learned from wedding panning….

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Post # 18
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Pick the best vendors, even if they cost a bit more. It’s worth having less stress because they’re on top of things and know what to do. Extra points for being nice and understanding that they are people too.

No one really notices ALL the minor DIY details. Pick a few big statement things and be done with it.

Don’t expect everyone to have the same level of tact and consideration as you.

There will be public photos shown to non-guests of you looking horrible with half-open eyes and a big gaping mouth with someone’s head in the bottom left corner.

RSVP early and ONLY account for the people ON the envelope.

Give cash, not check. If you do want to do a check, make it out to the GROOM and triple-check to make sure his first and last name are spelled correctly.

If you MUST give a gift (and not cash), please choose something from their registry and don’t assume you “know them”. No, you really don’t know them. They carefully selected all those items because that’s what they wanted. They want to settle into married life after their wedding, not go around to random stores and get back store credit they won’t use.

Don’t lose your invitation. It will contain everything you need to know, e.g. wedding website (for registry information), directions, time and locations.

Make the wedding your own. You don’t NEED a bridal party, bouquet toss, or even a wedding cake. People will think it is their wedding too by virtue of being your friend or family member; it’s not.


Post # 19
1575 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No one will ever care about your wedding as much as you do! So you might as well plan for what you really want becauyse you will never please everybody and dollars to donuts – they aren’t going to ask your opinion about THEIR wedding!

Post # 20
6739 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@NJmeetsBX:  Since they’re made out to both people, one person should be able to endorse the back of the check and allow it to be deposited or cashed by another person, no?


@Glow girl:  what does that mean to expect gfs to act weird?? do you mean single ones or everyone?? and what do you mean by weird?

Post # 21
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@futuremrsk18:  Depends.  My bank didn’t accept double endorsed checks. 


I wanted to add one thing.  People will surprise you both good and bad.  People you expect to be happy with you will behave like weirdos, uninvited people you didn’t even think would care will give you gifts, people you thought will never travel will, it’s a little crazy.

Also, some off registry gifts will be really nice.  We received personalized pillowcases that we love as well as a beautiful Tiffany vase.

Post # 22
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

When someone’s asks you if they can help, give them a job to do like loading presents, most people really mean it and on the day of you’ll wish you had the extra help. Some we didn’t ask to do anything were hurt because they felt we were close enough for us to ask( it made them feel excluded). Huh?

Post # 23
283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’ve learnt that your wedding is a party not a performance and not to sweat the small stuff. At the end of the day you’re getting married and people wont judge you based on whether or not you sheled out on getting embosed invitations or whatever.


Post # 24
640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Tiffmorris:  I not get a long with my Future Mother-In-Law, She actually has boycotted out wedding. 🙁 I am hoping most people will just give us cash or a check made out to my name because they know I am Miss Independent. I am not sure how else to combat this happening.

@NJmeetsBX: I will go and speak with my bank to see what they suggest we do. Maybe if I give them a headsup they will be ok with it?

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