(Closed) Biggest mistake of my life

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 153
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You’ve hurt him twice. You’ve left him and allowed him to think it was his fault. You’ve destroyed him. Leave him alone. Honestly, unless you’re completely and 100% certain you won’t do it yet again (which you can’t), don’t do that to him. And if he’s willing to take you back, he’s an idiot and why would want such a doormat anyway?

Post # 154
894 posts
Busy bee

Hehehe. The girl in the apartment next to mine is singing really loud with her windows open. So I’m reading all this while listening to a very off-tune “WE ARE NEVER EVER EVER GETTING BACK TOGETHER.” It really adds to the atmosphere. :3

PPs are right. You don’t know whether he can trust you, but I don’t know whether you can trust you. OP, I’m sure you realize at this point that your mistakes were really immature and even cruel, and it’s hard to overcome that history sometimes. Think hard. Figure out why you want him. Because you’re both single? Or for a “real” reason? Even then, I wouldn’t recommend finding him yourself. I’d let him initiate the contact. He has the right, after all that heartbreak you put him through.

Post # 155
433 posts
Helper bee

Leave him alone.  You’ve already broken his heart twice.  A third time will ruin him. 

Post # 156
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

This may not be popular, but yes, now that he’s single you can call him.

This guy knows you better than any of us, and if he has concerns that you’ll hurt him again, he can tell you to [email protected] off. If, however, he thinks there is something there, and wants to take a chance, there you go. For the love of all that is holy, don’t hurt him. Calling him and telling him how you feel is fine imo, he can decide whether he wants you in his life or whether you’ve caused too much pain. We don’t know you guys or the whole story, so he’d be a better judge of whether you’re likely to hurt him again, or whether he wants to try and make it work.

Have you maintained these feelings for the past 8 months?

Post # 157
1783 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ooooh I’m in two minds…

ok you’ve hurt him in the past and when he was with his Girlfriend I was def thinking bugger off and leave him alone


now you are both single waiting for him to come to you prob won’t happen as he’ll be wary of you (rightfully so) and won’t want his heart trod on again – he doesn’t know how you will respond.

reach out to him as a friend and see what happens – but if you for one moment think you will hurt him again do not try and get back into a relationship with this guy – no one deserves to be treated badly.

Just remember thou he may not forgive you and tell you to bugger off – THEN you should leave him alone and move on completely!

Post # 158
364 posts
Helper bee

I would leave well alone tbh, you don’t seemed to have matured much by saying ‘haha I told you so’ about him and his girfriend breaking up, Plus he might need space to get over her, I know you said his mates said he was ok, but men hide their real feelings from the friends. You don’t want to end up being the rebound.

That being said I’ts what you want to do, it’s your choice. Just think though if you do get back with him and it doesn’t work out and you want to leave him again, it will be so much harder for you to do that after what you did to him before.

I really think you should move on, if he has feelings for you still he will contact you.


Post # 160
1075 posts
Bumble bee

@EffieTrinket:  i agree… leave him alone please, obviously he wasnt the right one for u even though hes a good guy bcz u wouldnt hav hurt him. he deserves a to b with his soul mate and so do u. dont hurt him again

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