Post # 1
So what are the biggest items on your “To Do” list that you have left, and are they causing you any anxiety?
Mine are all about my bridesmaids and groomsmen.
1. I only have four Bridesmaid or Best Man and TWO still don’t have dresses. I mean…that’s half my BMs! I’m doing mismatched dresses, so all I asked is that they be black, primiarily satin, and floor length. They could buy the dresses anywhere. I think giving people that kind of freedom backfired a little since they didn’t necessarily have to get an order in advance at a bridal shop and could just buy off the rack. EEeeek!
2. The groomsmen mostly still haven’t gotten their measurements in to the tux place, and those were due 2 days ago. Only 1, plus the groom, have it done. That’s not as big of a deal as the dresses, but I want to make sure the CORRECT sizes are being reserved in case the same style tux is being rented by another bridal party the same day, so, yah.
There’s only so much nagging you can do…
I’ve found that the biggest problems all centered around the bridal party during the wedding planning process. My vendors have been amazing, DIY projects have gone smoothly, dress shopping was fantastic, etc etc. But having to wrangle 8 people to do what they need to do when they need to do it, keeping people calm, listening to complaints, etc…that has driven me completely insane.
Post # 3
Blah! I hope that everyone gets their act together in time. It’s tough when dealing with other people…you can only do so much, and then ultimately they have to take it from there. I hope it becomes one of those last minute everything falling into place just right things.
I think right now all the stress I’m feeling is from the stuff we still need to buy and finding the money to buy it. One of the biggest headaches is waiting on money to be refunded from a car dealership, that should have been refunded two weeks ago…after 3 or 4 calls this week alone to the car dealership, twice with insistance that the money was credited then yesterday an acknowledgment that it wasn’t….yeah that’s annoying. It’s a good enough sum of money that it will help us pay for two of the big things on our list. That we can’t get until stupid car people do what they’re supposed to. Grrrrr.
But, yeah I think that’s it. Oh, and the last minute RSVPs of people who haven’t yet sent there’s in. And the sad feeling of having people who were “of course going to come” suddenly say they’re not for what feels like silly reasons. But, nothing can be done about that.
But it’s getting close! One month from today! And it looks like you’re one month minus two days! So close!
Post # 4
@judithsr: Ah yes, that’s another…some of the people who I was SO excited to have come not being able to for whatever reason. My close cousin is in the Army and he doesn’t think his leave is going to be approved, and for some reason I just can’t envision myself getting married without him there. I know he feels terrible, too. It’s so tough with military issues. =o(
Post # 5
Biggest stress issues now are finalizing all the little details. I know that we still have a couple weeks but I need to finish up some DIY projects and buy a gift for my parents. The well is running dry and I may end up having to cut something here or there. I don’t like that idea, but what can you do.
Also, Fiance is supposed to set up dance classes for us (because we both look really awkward slow dancing) and he hasn’t gotten that done. Plus, we don’t have a first dance song.
Oh and I’ve gained weight so I’m afraid I’m going to look like a sausage in my dress….
Post # 6
Biggest Stresses right now are:
– Talking to my Uncle about saying a few things at the wedding.
– Making my Caterer happy
– My Fiance getting a suit!
I think those are the biggest ones right now.
Post # 7
Right now my stresses are:
-My Future Mother-In-Law WAS going to host the rehersal, but I think she’s backing out. Lovely. She even sent out invitations to my out of town guests, now if we have to move it, I have to call everyone and get directions to them. Its kind of a nightmare.
-Finish the programs
I was stressing because I thought I’d gained weight, but instead I’ve lost some, so that’s good I guess?
Post # 8
I really don’t have any major stressers. The only things I can think of are printing and assembling our wedding programs, finishing the seating arrangements, printing the escort cards, and turning in our head count at the end of this month. I also have my last gown fitting the first week of October, but that’s a no brainer.
Post # 9
Little details are annoying me. Two weeks from tomorrow and i am just busy trying to get all those little things done.
Post # 10
Tracking people down, so we can work on the seating chart and “meal breakdown spreadsheet” that our venue needs… DF’s family doesn’t believe in RSVPing. The deadline was yesterday and we still haven’t heard from 1/2 our guests.
I’m waiting to do stuff like favors, Out of Town bags and programs until I get a firmer count. I don’t want to do unnecessary work and get stuck with dozens of extras.
Post # 11
Hmmm….well I had a money meltdown tonight and ending up screaming and crying (again) like a 2 year old. FI is sound asleep, having gotten sick of my tantrum and running for the (pillowy) hills. The budgeting has been SO difficult for this wedding that it turns out going on any kind of honeymoon seems to be a no go. I thought we’d be able to do it and have spent the last few days trying to figure out how but I can’t make the money turn out for the best 🙁 Other than that…
Too many people are coming than can actually fit in the church.
Future Mother-In-Law would like us to be a taxi service.
I’ll get back to you with the rest….lol 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
The sheer volume of my to-do list is stressing me out. We have 29 things on the list and only 20 days left. I had a snotty, teary meltdown last night because only 4 things got accomplished this weekend, with another 2 in the works. We took a 3 day weekend and that was all we got checked off the list?????? My photog f’d our guest book photo up and sent it to the printer without me proofing it, our venue did not send me something I asked for that I need in order to do the menu cards and just…. gahhhhhhhhh!!!!!! I am a ball of stress that things won’t be done in time.
Post # 13
I have a couple things stressing me out:
-Guest Book, etsy seller isn’t going to get it to me until Sept 27! 4 days before my wedding!
-Place Cards, seriously trying to get these to print right is obnoxious!
-Packing for Honeymoon
-Money, trying to keep us as close to our budget as possible
I think after this week and weekend I’ll feel much better! I have my to do list broken down by day and as of next week all I have to do is bake some stuff and clean my kitchen. If that holds up I will feel great!
I would be a mess without my mom, she has been so amazing since I have had little support from my in town BM’s!
Post # 14
I actually feel a lot better about things after knocking out a bunch of things on my list this past week. I still have a bunch to go, but it doesn’t seem nearly as godawful as it did last week!