(Closed) Biggest Wedding Pet Peeves…

posted 11 years ago in Beehive
Post # 77
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with SO many of these..

I’m having a ‘no kids’ reception.. since like many others, unruly kids just make me cringe.  In restaurants, let alone weddings!!  So the only kids that are invited are the flowergirl/escort and the ring bearer.  I know the flowergirl & escort won’t be coming anyways, so that makes me happy.

The flowertoss/gartertoss.. I hated being singled out when I was single, and because I’m the last of almost everyone to get married.. rather than having 2 girls trying to catch a bouquet and maybe 4 guys the garter, we’re doing neither.  I’ll be keeping my bouquet and drying it, thank you.

DJ.  I am all for GOOD DJs and GOOD music.  But please, no “I knew the bride when she used to rock and roll”.  As it is, I’ve had to relax my stuff with the DJ as is as my mom really wants to do a polka (and guess who gets to do it with her since my dad doesn’t dance……)

Long gaps between ceremony and reception.  This one is huge and because my reception venue is an Aerospace Museum, the exhibits would be open for the duration of the gap.  However, they recently told us that they wouldn’t let us in until 2pm the day of the wedding to decorate (the wedding is at 3), so we’ve had to push the reception opening time to 6 to give my family time to decorate.  So not happy about that one, but it’s out of my hands 🙁  I also have to go and visit my grandmother in her nursing home between the ceremony and reception, so that gives us barely enough time to do that (our pictures are all going to be done beforehand).

Post # 78
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ahh! There are so many I agree and disagree with here lol I’ll just say what I agree with and what my pet peeves are.

The tacky word…I hate it. Stop using it, besides half the time people are using it in the wrong context.

As a Bride:

1. People asking me 1,000,000 questions about the wedding right after we got engaged and making me feel like I should have it all planned out. Like chill the f*#% out we JUST got engaged!! lol

2. People saying it’s “YOUR DAY”. Last I checked my FH will be there too and he’s who I’m spending the rest of my life with…sooo it’s actually “OUR DAY”.

3. When people consider you single until you’re actually married! For example when they refer to your bachelorette party “Oh it’ll be your last night out as a single lady!!” Too bad my last night out as a single lady was the night before I was in a relationship with my FH. The only time it’s okay to consider yourself single before you’re married is when you have to fill out a job application or medical forms!! lol 


4. When people make negative comments about something regarding your choices for the wedding. I.E. colors, venue, food etc.

As a Guest:

1. Being sat at a table where you know nobody and the people you do know are tables away from you.

that’s all I can honestly say bothers me because as far as everything else is concerned it’s at the bride and grooms discretion.

Post # 79
2530 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

WOW! I loved this post!!! I agree with many things said but also have different views as others! I like what AmySue said about not being able to please everyone!!! Its impossible to do so dont even try!!! I need to remember that one because I worry about what other people will think WAY too much!

Post # 80
826 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

On the topic of seating: I prefer assigned seats as a guest, but if you’re not going to assign them, then please make sure there are actually enough seats for everyone! I went to a wedding once that didn’t have assigned seating, and only had enough tables for about 2/3 of the guest list. The rest of us just had to stand around awkwardly, and there was no bar or dancing, so there wasn’t really anything else to be doing.

Post # 80
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

loveatfirstsightlover:  I completely agree about overuse of the word tacky!! People seem so overly judgemental when it comes to weddings. My biggest pet peeve is when any guest complains about the wedding 

Post # 81
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

This is a really OLD thread..why not! I disliked the RSVP’s…I swear nobody RSVP’s…I had to hound a lot of people..and the ones that did RSVP maybe 3/4 showed up.

Secondly, I am not a fan of the dollar dance. I personally feel guest shouldn’t have to pay to dance with the bride/groom. 

Post # 82
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

dgplmr86:  They’re not paying to dance with them. It’s not a requirement in any way for the guests to partake in and every single other dance is “free” to dance with them. It’s a tradition that many cultures enjoy and expect to help the couple on their honeymoon or as a gift to contribute to their future lives together.

Post # 83
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

TwinkleBoss:  I get what your saying But I still don’t care for it.

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