(Closed) Biggest Wedding Regrets

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think my overall biggest regret is not putting more of ourselves into the wedding in our attempt to make everything so easy and convenient for us and our guests. I loved our venue, but it definitely wasn’t my dream ballroom setting. I didn’t have enough time to make all of our paper products match, so it ended up a little hodgepodgish. And to this day I still fantasize about doing a small courthouse wedding followed by dinner with our parents. Still buying a dress and hiring a photographer. I think looking back THAT would have been my real dream wedding. But there’s no way I would have known that until afterwards.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My biggest wedding regret was not leaving our venue to get our pictures done.  We were married and having the reception at my parents home, and after the ceremony everyone was pushing and pulling us in different directions that we never got so many of the pictures that we wanted.  I do not have one picture with my mom and dad or as a whole family.  I am a little bummed about it, but in the end, i have a lot of pictures with my new husband and that is truely what matters.

 

 

Post # 5
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My only regret is that it rained.

LOL I guess I cant control that anyway. But it prevented me from having my beautiful park ceremony. 🙁

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My only big regret was the pictures that I didn’t get. Our grandparents had gone in already while we were doing formal pictures and I had said that we would get pictures with them inside and we never did. Our baby was sick so she left pretty early and didn’t stay out side when we did formal pictures so we don’t have a picture of us with our children together.

I wish I would have been on the dance floor more. We were there for part, but I really wanted to make sure that I get to visit with everyone and were in photobooth fora while. I only slow danced with my husband to our first song and then part of the last slow song (his sister cut in on the last slow dance)

Other then that, the things that bother me about the day don’t compare to how great it was so I don’t really have any other regrets.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

The biggest regret I have is not putting my foot down harder about the decorations and not seeing our ceremony arch before our ceremony! I really didnt like our decorations at all – it was not what I had picked out or what I had envisioned and because of that I will not be including a lot of pictures in our album because Im trying to forget that part!

Post # 8
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

The two things I really wish I could change about my wedding was our first dance and buying an extra hour for the reception. We had a corographed 1st dance that looked horrible since I froze and forgot every step. And the extra hour, people all started leaving because they were exhausted and it was such a long day. If we had ended it an hour early there would have still been a good number of guests there for our last dance.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

1. I regret that my bustle wasn’t secure enough. It was SO ANNOYING on the night of that it kept getting ripped out.

2. I regret not having my mom in the room with my when I put my dress on. I think it would have been a special moment.

3. Not being more clear about how I wanted our first look to go. It wasn’t at all how I imagined it.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My bustle wasnt secure enough as well and became a huge pain carrying my train around whle dancing.

I wish I put more “personal” stuff into the wedding, like a moment to thank his parents and vice versa…or something. Sometimes i feel out wedding  was “:just another wedding”

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Baileyh: Sometimes I feel that way too! But then I realize what makes it special is the fact that its yours! So cheesy I know…but I have to tell myself that so I dont get caught up in remembering the negative things!

Post # 12
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Our thank you speech somehow disappeared from my purse, so we winged it and I hate that I forgot to thank SO many people who were so integral to making our day happen. I totally drew a blank, it sucked.

We pretty much missed our cocktail hour because of a calamity of unforeseen events. That bugs me but there’s nothing to be done about that.

Not telling our parents (*cough cough my Mother-In-Law cough cough*) that the receiving line is not the place for a 10 minute conversation and to keep it short and sweet. I thought this was common sense but oh my god, it took forever to get through our guests because of it!!!!! It was AWFUL. Seriously, I started telling people to skip the parents and come straight to us, it was insane. I felt so bad for our guests. There are some pretty funny photos of my “Holy sh!t could you shut up and let the people move along?!” face, LOL!

If I had to do it again, I think the only other thing I would change would be to put some kind of a “Do not disturb” sign on our sweetheart table or something. Everyone thought it was a lovely idea to have just the two of us and wanted to come over to tell us how sweet it was that we were alone, and then proceeded to talk to us for 10 minutes. It made me INSANE!!!! Just let us eat in peace!

All in all though, if those are my biggest complaints, it’s fine. That’s not to say things didn’t go wrong (because we had some HUGE problems) but I’ve come to terms with the things that were out of my control and there’s nothing I could have done to anticipate and avoid them. C’est la vie.

Post # 14
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

There are a couple of posts on this, here is one of them.

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/married-bees-would-you-do-it-all-over-again

When you read through these, most people have regrets about photography.  And quit a few bustles ripped…

My cake and flowers weren’t exactly what I wanted but I can live with that.  Our photography was rushed and I think a lot of pictures didn’t get taken.  That will be a harder pill to swallow.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@hilsy85: what happened with the first look?  We’re planning on doing one (mainly for the sake of time) and I REALLY want to make sure I do all I can to make sure it goes well.

Post # 16
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

1. I didn’t spend more time searching for the perfect dress

2. I entertained my husband’s family (80 of them)  for 40 minutes at the reception. They then decided to go “party elsewhere”. (Thank God we had another private reception in the private room of a restaurant and it was beautiful and perfect).

3. My Mom wasn’t there. She passed last Christmas day 🙁

4. I didn’t hire a better photographer.

5. We didn’t plan the honeymoon better.

6. I didn’t diet or exersise before the wedding. I am finally losing what I gained (from stress) now.

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