- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Could use some advice!
My Fiance and I used to have a great relationship with my future BIL and his wife – we’d hang out, go on trips, etc. – then they got divorced and we got engaged.
Now it’s all about him – he doesn’t ask about our plans or our wedding, he only talks big game about how amazing his own life is, and we get over shadowed by him and his new Girlfriend, who are both larger than life in egomania. We don’t hang out at all with BIL and his new Girlfriend because they are too much to take and it’s not at all the same dynamic as we had with him and his ex wife.
Whereas before BIL would say I was cool and he liked me and he and I got along so well, now he says things to my Fiance like ‘are you sure, buddy?’ and critisizes me and our relationship and my Fiance has to defend me as the woman he loves.
My Fiance was there for his B for his wedding and now he’s not getting at all the same in return. My Fiance took his B out for drinks and straight out asked him to be supportive. But it’s not happening.
My Fiance is bummed because his B is his best man! And he’s not even acting happy for us or interested at all.
Want to know – is it normal for guys to say ‘are you sure about this?’ to eachother?
Tempted to talk to him myself and ask him what’s up and tell him that I’d like to feel welcomed.
My Fiance and future BIL are drifting apart with tension because of this and how BIL is acting. We’re trying to keep moving forward and not let it bug us but it’s hard because it’s weighing on both of us.
What do we think???