Post # 16
My grandmother was able to teach me lots in her langugage as she was my primary caregiver when I was a small child. Over the years I forgot a lot, re-learned a little, now I just know the basics and can stumble through a convo. I’m too lazy to get back into it and my grandma only speaks english now as she’s been here so long.
I would highly encourage to let your Mother-In-Law teach your child another langugage. I know you have your concerns but being bilingual is truly a gift and it allows you to see the world in an entirely different way. I’m so thankful for what second langugage skills I was given.
Post # 17
Darling Husband and I are both bilingual (English and Spanish) and after some research on the different methods to raise bilingual children we have decided that we’re only going to speak the minority language at home (Spanish) since our children will be exposed to the majority language outside the house (daycare, playdates, school, etc.) I’m actually hoping to introduce a third language before they start elementary school by enrolling them in a language-immersion pre-k. I have a friend that is also bilingual (English and Spanish) she only speaks Spanish at home and her daughter attends a Japanese only pre-K, I think that’s pretty awesome! Hoping I can do something similar with my children. Language skills are always valuable!
Post # 19
I’m currently 7+ months pregnant and my husband and I both speak the same two languages, with English being our primary. However, we speak the second language fluently, as does both our parents and our siblings. We’ve decided that once baby is born, we are not going to speak English to him since we figure he will learn English from television and school. It will be an adjustment for us since we do speak English together in the house 95% of the time. But we are determined. I really want my kids to be able to speak both languages since both my husband and I do. Would be a shame to not expose them to a foreign language since we both speak it.
And honestly, I don’t think your situation differs, just because you don’t speak the language. As a pp has mentioned, I would be happy that I have in-laws that would be able to teach my son a different language. What exactly are you worried that she will tell your child?
Post # 20
My mum grew up speaking English, but her Indian parents communicated to their family in Gujarati so she picked up on that. She had a French education, so is bilingual in English and French. When my siblings and I were small, my mum always said “I must speak to you guys in French” but never did. Jeez. Thanks mum. Now all I can manage is bad English.
You don’t have to learn Spanish just so you know what your mother in law is saying to her grandchild. Learn it because you want to.
Post # 21
Our children will probably be trilingual like my husband – both hubby and I speak Afrikaans (my mother tongue) and English and my hubby speaks German (his mother tonge) as well.
Me and most other people will speak Afrikaans, hubby and his family German, and the child will learn English at school
Post # 22
I recommend buying some baby books in the desired language and including both parents in reading them to the baby. It teaches the child and parent and provides a bonding opportunity.
Post # 23
sorry for the radio silence ladies, it’s been a busy week!
I didn’t mean for that to come off in a wrong way. She would in no way do or say anything inappropriate, she just has the personality to spoil 🙂
Well, looks like I have 9 months to overcome my fear of speaking- we got our BFP! I read and write Spanish, and can understand about 40% of his native tongue, better get started! Thanks for all of your input.
Post # 24