BIL's Baby is due 10 days before our wedding

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
146 posts
Blushing bee

My goodness, I wouldn’t even think of postponing the wedding. The odds of the baby coming ON your exact wedding date are pretty low. Yes, possible. But pretty low. I had late babies, but a lot of doctors aren’t even comfortable with women going more than a week past their due date. 

Sure, people would ooh and aww over a newborn at your wedding; I’ve seen that. I hardly think that is going to take over your whole wedding. 

I wouldn’t stress out over this, really.

Post # 3
2132 posts
Buzzing bee

I very much doubt they will want to bring their baby to your wedding 10 days after birthing it. And being concerned that a new baby will steal your thunder is pretty low. Due dates are due dates, babies come early and late. 

Life goes on. Have your wedding as planned. It will still be beautiful no matter what happens with the baby, and it will still be your day. 

Post # 5
1434 posts
Bumble bee

People are going to care the same amount about your wedding whether there is a baby or not. Love doesn’t run out, so a baby only creates more love and doesn’t take any from you.

Keep your wedding date and go ahead with your plans.

Post # 6
38 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would think your SIL will just stay home with the baby while the Brother-In-Law attends the wedding. I know I wouldn’t have brought my newborn to a wedding. Don’t postpone the wedding, it will be fine. 

Post # 8
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I don’t think you should postpone your wedding for a year on the chance they have their baby close to your date. Yes people will be gushing over a new baby but they’ll all be there for you and your SO, not the baby. This shouldn’t stop you from living your lives. What happens when something else conflicts? Would you keep putting your important events on hold because of it? I wouldn’t worry about this.

Post # 9
3846 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would do nothing. This really isn’t an issue, and it would be madness to postpone your wedding because your SIL is due 2.5 weeks before your wedding. The chances of her giving birth the day of your wedding are slim, and if so, you really think you aren’t going to even “think about your wedding”? It’s very likely they won’t even bring the baby to your wedding if it’s that close since baby won’t have had shots yet and the first weeks are so exhausting. We had a baby several weeks before DH’s cousin’s wedding. I stayed home with baby and he traveled (out of state) to attend solo. Our pediatrician recommended not taking the baby to a big event like a wedding at such a young age. Not a big deal. I think you need to take a deep breath and a step back. It will be okay.

Post # 10
1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

keksgesicht :  I echo everyone else, I don’t think this is worth changing your plans over. There’s a huge possibility that his brother and his wife won’t come (I know I wouldn’t go with a newborn for sure!!). But why on earth would his parents not attend? Your wedding is only one day?

You’re making an issue out of nothing hun.

Your wedding is about you and your husband at the end of the day, no matter who is there and what else is going on, that day will be special to you and that’s all that should matter. You will still walk away married. 

Post # 11
9138 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Oh god no, don’t postpone the wedding. We found out I’m due a couple weeks before DH’s cousin’s wedding (and they’re like brothers, born only a few months’ apart and grew up together). I’m bummed that I’ll have to miss it, but Darling Husband is still going — he’ll fly down the morning of the wedding and fly back home the morning after. I can survive 24 hours without him. The thought of them postponing anything never even crossed our minds.

Also, agree with PPs that I highly doubt they’ll bring the baby. That was also something that never crossed my mind.

Post # 12
8783 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

keksgesicht :  No doctor is going to let a woman go 17 days past her due date so there is no need to worry about the baby being born on your wedding day. It will be at least a week old by then. Your husband’s parents are not going to miss his wedding. Even excited new grandparents can take 12 hours away from the baby to celebrate another child’s happy event. If the brother can’t make it, then you’ll get married without him there and life will go on. Postponing for a year is crazy. What if someone else gets pregnant? Or this same Brother-In-Law, it happens! Your wedding is the biggest event in your life (at the moment) and surely you don’t want them making your wedding about their baby, so please remember to not make their baby about your wedding. There’s enough happy to go around, you can each have your big “thing.” 

Post # 13
5817 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

If you are in the US and she is going to regular OB route there is no way she’s going 17 days overdue. She’ll be induced 1-2 weeks after her due date tops. If she gives birth close to your wedding date she and the baby may still be in the hospital and it’s up to Brother-In-Law if he leaves for a few hours to attend the wedding. If she gives birth around her due date I highly doubt she’s going to want to bring a newborn around a ton of people. If she does decide to show up with the baby, it will pretty much be eating or sleeping at that age.

I can’t imagine why this news would prompt rescheduling your wedding.

Post # 15
11449 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

This is not an issue. If the baby is due on 9/19, no one overseeing your FSIL’s care will allow her to wait three additional weeks before she has the baby. If she’s overdue, they’ll probably induce her after two weeks at the very most.

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