Post # 1
I hate my doctor. Everytime I go in, he refuses to listen to my questions regarding birth control options and he makes me jump through hoops to get my birth control. His response is that I should abstain. No joke. He actually tells me that I need to abstain. I feel like this isn’t his place to say, regardless of my marital status or his being a doctor, I don’t feel like he should tell me what I can and cannot do if there’s no medical reason. I went in for sinusitis and he gave me antibiotics and told me to abstain. Um, I get that antibiotics reduce the effectiveness of birth control, but the proper response, IMO, would have been to tell me that the effectiveness is reduced and to take proper additional precautions. It’s MY decision whether abstaining is the proper additional precaution or whether condoms or whatever are the proper additional precaution. I’m SO frustrated. I’m trying to switch doctors but they won’t let me.
Also, he’s insisting I have another Pap Smear. I’m 19 and I had one last year at my birth control appointment and it was fine, totally normal or whatever. (Not that they actually sent me the results, I had to call and ask for them SIX MONTHS after the Pap Smear.) And the CDC has just changed its recommendations to every three years. I’m not a whore sleeping with 10 different guys a night. My SO and I are each other’s one and only and I’m not at high risk for anything. I don’t understand why he’s insisting on annual Pap Smears, especially when he doesn’t even bother to send the results! I’m so frustrated with this!
Post # 3
Honestly, I think you should go to a different doctor. He has no right to pass judgement on your sex life. I wasn’t aware that they reduced it to every 3 years, I thought that was only if you were over 40.
Post # 4
The birth control thing is ridiculous – it’s your decision!
Regarding the Pap Smears though – you should definitely get one every year – even if your with the same person, there are a variety of things that they check for. I know if my pap smear is normal my doctor doesn’t contact me – they only call if there is a problem.
Post # 5
sheesh, get another doctor! i had a doctor like this that I dropped instantly, because their nurse practitioner was in the stone age about contraception as well. I mean, why work with women in gyno if you don’t want to discuss BC? She told me certain BC was for “married ladies” after looking at my ring finger. Psshhhh, someone got a review on the doctor review websites.
*edit to add that I was single, not engaged at the time
Post # 6
If you are over 30, you can get them at a reduced frequency if you have no problems.
Young women should get them every year.
Maybe you would have more luck if you went to a specialist. Is your doctor just a general family practitioner or something?
Post # 7
I found an article about the pap smear thing. It says every 2 years for women in their 20s and every 3 years for women in their 30s.
Not sure if I want to step down to every 2 years though. If the insurance covers every year, I would still do it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Marie Gabrielle
Who is “they” that won’t let you switch doctors?
It sounds like you should find a new doctor. And most (if not all) the women I know get Paps every year – it has nothing to do with the number of sexual partners you agree to.
Post # 9
“The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) released new guidelines that say getting a pap smear every two years is enough to catch cervical cancer in women under 30.
It was also recommended that routine pap screening begin three years after the first time of having intercourse, or at age 21.
Many cancer institutions recommend a pap smear once every three years.”
Post # 10
I completely agree that you should find a new doctor. You shoul dfind one who you feel comfortable talking to and that listens to your concers. It is very inapropriate that this doctor is pushing their views on you. Ask friends and family for recomendations. Since you just had a physical they would probably just do a quick visit and would discuss birth control with you.
Post # 11
“They” is the manager of the office I go to. I asked to see another doctor in that office and the seventh person I was transferred to told me that she spoke to the manager and was told that I had to tell my old doctor I was changing doctors. I told her that I had told my old doctor. And she still wouldn’t allow me to schedule an appointment with a different doctor.
Post # 12
Can you go to a different practice? There are so many of them out there.
Post # 13
1. Change your doctor if you can (even if he has a partner that you can go to instead).
2. If your insurance really won’t let you change (which is awful – you should have a choice), you should be upfront and say to him, “I do not appreciate you constantly preaching abstinence. I need a form of contraception and need to be well informed.”
3. Regarding the pap smear – I would still get it yearly if you are under 30. A. It doesn’t take much effort to do. B. Cervical cancer is awful. This is a very effective way of screening for changes in your cervix.
This is what the CDC says:
If you are 30 or older, and your screening tests are normal, your chance of getting cervical cancer in the next few years is very low. For that reason, your doctor may tell you that you will not need another screening test for up to three years. But you should still go to the doctor regularly for a check-up that may include a pelvic exam. Learn more about extending the interval between screenings.
Post # 14
Ugh, hearing stories like this really makes me mad!
I agree that you should go to a different doctor – ASAP. Who won’t let you change docs? The insurance company? I’m sure there has to be more than 1 GYN in your plan area, but if not – contact Planned Parenthood. They have a lot of great resources.
Birth control is not something to mess around with.
JMO, but if he feels that strongly about not prescribing single women birth control, he should find another job, or automatically refer you to another doctor.
I know pap smears are not the most fun a girl can have, but they can save your life. If you switch to a better doctor, they might not be so bad either – my doc is truly awesome, and frankly, she’s in and out and done with my pap in like 30 seconds flat.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
It doesn’t sound like you’re seeing a gyne. I would make that switch instead of using a GP for those things.
They did just recently change that guideline about pap smears, but until my insurance stops covering yearly pap smears, I’m not going to stop. I still have to get an annual pelvic exam, so they might as well do their little swabbing.
Post # 16
I get a pap smear every year. It’s recommended. And when I get mine, they say that they will ONLY call me/let me know the results if it’s bad or if i call up the testing place myself. Could that be it?I have to get a new one every year to renew my BC.
And that’s bull about your dr. Makes me mad hearing it. Stupid judgemental prude–a doctor should NOT be pushing abstinance on you unless you are obviously like a kid, lol. But if you are there with legit questions he shouldn’t just treat you like crap.
Seriously….i have the nicest, most CONSERVATIVE indian woman for an obgyn and she will openly discuss sex with me (even before i was married!) even tho it is SUPER taboo in her religion. It’s part of being a doctor she said. She’s way cool; you need to go online to your website andf ind other drs that take your insurance. Or call up the clinic and ask to be swtiched. Or go to a totally different clinic and say “i was a patient at X clinic and not happy with my physician” and get a new one. Call them, makes ure they take your insurance, and just go! it’ll all work out, people have to like their obgyns, ya knwo?
It’s one thing to have a personal opinion, it’s another thing to WORK IN THE FIELD with women who, of course, will have sex and babies, and tell them off. What does he do if he gets a 15 year old in his office? Make her cry?! I mean, really.