Post # 1
I have made the mistake of waiting two weeks before the wedding to figure out birth control (we are waiting). I am so unsure of what to pick.
What do you ladies recommend? The pill, the patch, the shot? Ideally, I would like something with minimal side effects!
I am 26 and Fiance is 34, so we figure we will use BC for a year or two and then evaluate if he needs to get fixed.
Post # 3
Does this mean you dont want to have children at all, its a good idea not to rush into a permanent solution such as getting him “fixed” as you may feel differently in a few years, i would wait until you are at least 30.
But as for birth control, best you see a doctor or clinic. I think of the options above the pill is possibly least evasive, it is effective pretty much immediatly so two weeks before wedding is plenty of time and because its a daily pill you can just stop taking right away if you have side effects. But you do have to remember to take it.
Have you considered condoms, even just to start with?
Post # 4
I’d suggest the pill. Condoms can be a PITA if he’s never had sex before.
Post # 5
The pill is awesome. I have not had any decrease WHATSOEVER in sex drive ( 😉 ), no weight gain, skin is clear (it normally always is, but some pills are good for keeping your skin clear), periods are very light and only last for 3-4 days. I have nothing but good things to say about it 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t think the Depo Provera shot is very good. I’ve heard too many horror stories about it and since it takes so long to get out of your system, if you have problems it will take a long time to go away. I have had the patch and didn’t like it very much, it didn’t stay on my body very well.
Just start out with the pill, you can always go to another pill if you don’t like the side effects after a month or two.
Post # 8
The Pill! I used to take it and I’ve had no side affects.
Post # 9
I have been on the pill for 6 years. No complaints here!
Post # 10
I use Mirena (IUD or coil). It is not for everyone. I personally like it WAY better than the pill— no weight gain, no mood swings, no worries with forgetting to take it, plus it is pretty much effective right from Day 1, unlike the pill that takes a couple of weeks to really get effective. Oh extra bonus, I rarely even spot these days, let alone have a proper period.
It is fairly unpleasant to have it “installed” and some doctors won’t give it to a woman who has not had kids, depending on how tightly closed the opening to her uterus is. I think it’s only extreme cases where you are flat-out denied, I can’t even begin to describe how it feels to have it inserted, so you’d want to take the day off work and plan a couch night that evening, perhaps even taking the next day off work depending on your job and how you usually cope with menstrual pain. The first week or so you will have an occasional strong cramp, like a menstrual cramp but more intense, and for the first few months you get a little achey around when you’d normally have your period. But it settles down quite nicely, and you don’t even really know it’s there. It lasts for 5 years and to me it’s worth a little pain up front to not have to worry about a thing for 5 years (other than a monthly check to be sure the strings are still where they should be). You can have it removed anytime if you decide you want to try for kids, even if your 5 years are not over with.
There are a couple of brands of IUD on the market; Mirena is the one with a hormone coating, but it is very low dose. It does stop your periods but it is not enough hormone to bring the side effects usually associated with the pill. The non-coated ones make periods heavier in some women so make sure you ask your doctor which one is best for you.
PS don’t refer to your fiance’s potential procedure as “getting fixed.” You get a dog fixed. You fix things when they are broken. Hopefully your fi isn’t broken or a dog. It’s just a pet peeve of mine. Call it “snipped” if you want. “Fixed” just doesn’t sound like a nice thing to say about the man you’re marrying— even if he says it himself!
Post # 11
I was on the pill for about 10 years, but just a warning that if you’ve never been on the pill before, you could have some nasty side effects initially until your hormones level out. Once you’re on and your body is used to it, it can be really nice!
Post # 12
I’m on the pill and have been since becoming sexually active 4.5 years ago. But if that is the route you want to go, you’ll need to get a prescription quickly because it takes 7 days of use initially before it is effective.
Post # 13
I have the paragard IUD (non-hormonal) and LOVE it! I haven’t had children either but my doctor is awesome and said it should work. She gave cytotec (I can’t remember the drug name…..we always just call it cytotec at work) to soften the cervix and I took ibuprofen before insertion and seriously felt almost nothing. Plus, it lasts for 10 years!
I also had implanon (upper arm insert) and I really liked that as well (no periods! yippie!) but it caused me to gain weight and I couldn’t lose it no matter how much exercise/healthy eating/etc. However, my sisters have used hormonal bc with no side effects. It’s different for every woman.
Can you tell I like BC methods I don’t have to remember to take/put in? 😀
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - The Millennium Center
I’ve been on the Depo shot for a year and I HATE it!!! I cannot wait for it to wear out of my system. I’ve gained 30lbs, have awful acne breakouts, crazy mood swings, etc. I’m going back onto the pill this week instead of getting my next shot. The shot is good if you want extreme protection, but to me it’s really not worth it.
Post # 15
I’ve been on the pill for seven years and I love being on it. I’ve never had any bad side effects or anything. It made my periods so much lighter and it reduced my horrible cramps too!