Post # 1
So I’m on my 6th trial of a different birth control now. I tried low dose hormone pills, shots, the implant, the ring, etc. The only one I haven’t tried quite yet is the IUD, but I’m starting to think is it even gonna be worth it to go through all that (I hear insertion is terrible) just to wind up with the same symptoms?
Every birth control I go on causes some sort of depression/anxiety/emotional turmoil. I turn into a different person on them. It’s not all the same- some make me extremely fatigued and depressed, others turn me into a psycho maniac who cries at everything, but NONE of them are sustainable.
Without birth control, I get the worst periods. Generally have to call in doubled over in pain for 3 days periods. I use a diva cup and a super pad and generally have a leak in about 2 hours. Endomitriosis runs in my family- I haven’t been tested for it becaus I was hoping one of these birth controls would stick. I’m not even sure what the other treatments for it are if there even are any?
What kills me is my husband and I are also CFBC, and have no intentions of changing our minds. But because I’m 28, I have yet to find a docto who will touch my uterus because “what if”.
Not sure what else to do. I wanted to try the no hormone IUD- but I hear that it can actually make cramping/periods worse and that definitely won’t be okay.
Any bees go through something similar?
Post # 2
If you are CFBC I would definitely vote to try the IUD. I had Skyla which is the smaller version of Mirena meant for women who have never been pregnant. Insertion wasn’t fun but not as bad as the internetz would tell you. Would never stop me from getting one again. I had off and on period cramps for a month or so after insertion and they slowly went away. My period was super light, hardly needed tampons. I had no side effects beyond occasional bloating throughout my cycle. Too Much Information but my husband went inside of me 90% of the time and no pregnancies here 👍🏻
Post # 3
Seeing as you’re CFBC and quote “have no intention of changing our minds”, has your husband considered getting a vasectomy? It would mean no more worrying about BC for you and (sadly) it’s a lot easier for a man to get it done and approved by a doctor with no pushback.
Post # 4
TeacherBee323 : I think the concern is she needs something to address her painful periods
Bee I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Have you considered getting a formal endometriosis diagnosis and undergoing surgery as a treatment? My first thought was the copper IUD because there are no hormones to mess with your mood, but that doesn’t help the painful periods. Sending you lots of hugs ans hope it works out!
Post # 5
keikochan : My plan was going to be to go this route if I am unable to find a suitable birth control. Birth control generally works wonders for my painful/heavy periods, and also allows a better intimate life with my husband, so it seems like a win-win, if only I could find one.
els2016 : Did you have side effects with other types of birth control? I feel like my gynecologist is starting to side eye me every time I come in saying that the BC didn’t work (because one of them HAS to work, right?) There were two I tried in college that made me miserable but that was several years ago (nuvaring and Yaz), maybe hormones change and they wouldn’t be that bad now?
Also how complicated is the removal process? I remember with the implant I had to wait almost 2 months to get it taken out because it was considered a “surgical procedure”. I became suicidal by the end of it it got so bad. That’s why for the last two I stuck with pills of different kinds so that once I give them their “grace period” (he told me 3 months) I can just stop them immediately without an appointment if it got really bad.
TeacherBee323 : Unfortunately when my husband was younger, he had an accident of falling out of a tree and landing on top of a chain link fence. I guess he landed in the worst way (said he blacked out for 3 days). It left him a bit disfigured on his scrotum, and he has been hypersensative in that area ever since. Just talking about a vasectomy will make him nauseous. I’m not sure I can ask him to go through with it, and even if I did I don’t think he’d be able to. Not to mention the disfigurement might make it physiologically hard to complete. I suppose we could get his sperm tested to see the potency, however he’s never had any issue with production so I doubt that it’s an issue.
This unfortunately too won’t help with my periods. They’ve gotten worse and worse over the years.
Post # 6
I think you could consider trying a new doctor who will take you seriously. Have you considered seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist who might back you up if the doctor does not take you seriously? Your side effects have been more than bad enough to merit it. Hormonal birth control is an absolute no-go for me. I had a gyno who convinced me to try the hormonal IUD because it processes the hormones differently than pills do – that was a horrible idea for me even if it might work for others.
It sounds horribly frustrating that doctors are not taking you seriously and are just giving you more and more prescriptions. I really recommend that you draw that metaphorical line in the sand and stand up for your needs. Unfortunately a lot of doctors just don’t take side effects or period based pain as seriously as they should and you really really have to self-advocate to get the treatment you deserve.
Post # 7
otterbee : Ah, that makes sense. Well I had the implant for 3 years and I hated it too(depression, crazy on and off again periods, etc.). When it was time for removal I switched to Mirena and I like it a lot better. The insertion process is really not much different than getting a pap, and I had some crampiness and bleeding for about a week (which frankly if you’re already used to having cramps should be nothing new to you).
Now months later I get zero periods, zero cramps, and I’m happy as a clam. The doctor also side-eyed me when I said I wanted Mirena because of the side effects the implant gave me (his words: Well they release the same kind of hormones so I don’t know why it’d be any different…) but for me it was. I’ve also read studies that the IUDs like Mirena, Skyla, etc. work very well for women with endometriosis.
Post # 8
TeacherBee323 : When I had the implant removed I told my gyno that maybe the next thing I should try would be an IUD like mirena, and he told me the same thing and has had me on two different pills since (right now I just quit the lo lo estrin fe), was on it for 3 months and it’s just been bogging me down. I FEEL the best on no hormones- I tend to take much better care of myself, exercise more, feel emotions normally, etc. It really is night and day difference. When it comes period time though, I’m usually wishing that I’d just put up with the side effects. I sometimes worry that I’m miscarrying. I went to the gyno once with concerns of my flow and they (nurse practitioner) said that some women just bleed heavier than others and I just need to find the right feminine product 🤯.
Maybe it is time for a new ONGYN. It sucks because this one is the only one in network on my insurance that isn’t more than an hour away.
Post # 9
I feel like I could have written this post. It’s so so frustrating. My next step is an IUD as well because I hate who I am and how I feel while on birth control, although it does really help with my endometriosis symptoms. Glad to hear that Mirena has worked well for some people who didn’t do well on the pill
Post # 10
Wow. Wow. Wow. Can relate to this SO hard. I’ve tried everything too, and it all makes me feel like garbage. So sorry to hear that you’re struggling! Have you discussed a tubal ligation with your doctor? I am getting one this summer after firmly being CFBC for years. Hope you find a solution!
Post # 11
Have you been tested for PCOS? I’d want to rule that out first. Then I would definitely look into the possibility of endometriosis and address what is likely causing you so much pain. I’ve heard horror stories about where all that uterine tissue goes.
If you have endometriosis (or pcos) the consensus will be to stay on hormonal bc. My daughter uses a combination med, Seasonique that limits periods to 4x/year.
You have two issues, period pain and prevention of conception. I don’t understand why all the effort being made is on your part. Your husband could wear a condom. If his injury screwed up his vas deferens he may be infertile, has he ever had that checked out? You wouldn’t need to worry about conception in that case. If his parts are in working order, he should seriously consider manning up and getting a vasectomy. I’m sure he could find a urologist who’s willing to work with an anaesthesiologist for some light sedation to make the procedure less terrifying. And urologists have seen plenty of malformations, I don’t think that would be a serious impediment to having it done.
Post # 12
otterbee : I had 3 different mirenas over 11 years. Insertion is not really that bad, a little worse than a Pap smear. I went right back to work right after. I would definitely not recommend copper iud (non hormonal) with what you describe heavy painful periods. And removal is just done in my GP doctors office (again, feels like a pap). I would go for it, or have your husband get a vasectomy.
Post # 13
otterbee : Have you tried Red rasberry leaf tea? It is not a red tea. It is made from the leaves of rasberry plant.
I used to be doubled over, curled in a ball during my period. I accidentally discovered that by drinking this tea, my pain would leave in a short time. Much later I discovered that the tea is recommended for women’s wellness. I drink the tea at least 1 or 2 days before I need it and once or twice during the first few days of my period. Now I am amazed that my periods are usually mostly painless. The key for me has been to drink the tea before I need it and continue throughout the critical period. I use only honey as sweetener, the few times I have used sugar, did not seem as potent as the times I use honey. I have not tested that theory critically, I just stick to honey now.
It took me a while to figure I should drink it before I need it, but I have been using it for over 15 years now.
ETA: this is not for birth control, but it has worked as pain control.
Post # 14
otterbee : I actually only got the IUD because I started getting migraines with aura while on the pill and my Dr wouln’t prescribe me anything with estrogen when I complained about the headaches at my yearly physical. She said it puts me in a higher stroke risk category and she didn’t feel comfortable prescribing anything with estrogen when there are many other options. Taking it out wasn’t bad. If the strings are visible to them it should be fairly simple. She had me take some deep breaths and then cough and she pulled it as I coughed. It was a really weird sensation but not nearly as painful as insertion, just gave me a long period cramp and it was done. I had a withdrawl bleed 2 days later and then had my period the next month. I should note I have not had a single migraine since being off the pill. I will never use a form of estrogen again. My body doesn’t agree with it. I do agree with PP that it is worth discussing vasectomy with your partner.
Post # 15
Tbh it sounds like you need the IUD. Everything that plays with your hormones is giving you awful side effects and the IUD is the only one that won’t do that.
some of my friends have had them put in and they said it’s really not as bad as everyone makes it out to be.