- Miss Grape
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I want to gather some opinions and advice from you lovely ladies.
Please keep an open minded. If you are going to be judgmental, please just don’t post. I want constructive criticism and tough love if need be, but not dumb comments.
Anyway, my fiancé and are are getting married next June. I have been on every type of birth control (literally) and am on Implanon right now. I know being on birth control is responsible. I am 21 and so is my fiancé. While we are not planning on trying to conceive until later next year, I want to get off of birth control. I know it is my choice. My fiancé is just fine using condoms and supports my decision.
However, I went to my Gyno a couple of months ago for my annual and asked for a referral to get my Implanon removed (my Gyno clinic refers out to the local hospital in case of complications). My doctor refused to give me one, told me to tough it out, and that I have no excuse to get it removed. She told me that at my age, I am in no position to get pregnant. I was so appalled that another woman would tell me this that I was speechless as I walked out of the clinic.
I don’t like being on birth control of any kind. I never have. I don’t feel like myself. I don’t feel normal. The hormones just dont make me feel right. I just don’t want to be on birth control of any kind anymore. I have tried them all; IUDs, pills, NuvaRing, Depo, Implanon. I just want to feel like a natural, normal, hormonally balanced woman again. And this doctor, who knows little more about me than my billing information and what my vagina looks like, is telling me I have an obligation to be on birth control because of my age.
I know I shouldn’t let her get to me, but I feel guilty now, like by being birth control free that I am being irresponsible. But in reality, if we were to conceive, it would hinder things, but it wouldn’t be a sad occasion, we would be thrilled! We want to wait and will use condoms, but for some reason I feel like it is a woman’s responsibility to be on birth control. I do not agree with that, but I feel like that is what I have been taught from doctors, my parents, and society in general.
Thanks for reading. Your thoughts and opinions are very much anticipated.
*Edited to correct typos.