(Closed) Birth Control Help Please!

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

#1- find a new doctor.  You’re an adult, and it is your choice what you do with your body.  End of story.

#2- have you tried a copper IUD?  It is hormone free, so your body & your cycles shouldn’t be altered because of hormones.

FWIW, we used hormonal bc AND condoms just to be safe.  You can also get a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility and use temperatures as well as condoms to avoid pregnancy until you’re ready.  There are plenty of avoidance methods that don’t require hormones, and you should find a healthcare provider that supports that.

YOUR body, YOUR decision ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

@DaneLady:  I think you can only get a copper IUD after a pregnancy.


@Miss Grape:  What a …peach!!! she has no right to tell you that and should not refuse to give you a referal.

I think it’s a good idea to stop birth control if you’re planning to conceive soon, I’ve heard it might take your body months and months to go back to it’s normal self if you’ve been on birth control for a long time, so it might take a while to get pregnant.

Don’t let this doctor’s opinion get to your head, you’re in your right to do whatever you want and think it’s best for your life and body, just demand that referal.

Good luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

ugh, so sorry. It might be rough with your insurance, but find a new doctor. I cannot STAND when doctors do this kind of crap! They are supposed to help you, not make you feel like crap for something that is YOUR decision about YOUR life and YOUR body!!! Honestly, I would report your doctor. Stuff like this gets under my skin THAT much. Ugh, that is SO morally and ethically WRONG!!! (sorry, I’m all fired up)! lol 

You might even look into affordable clinics. That way they’ll work with your insurance and/or income and I’ve found that a lot of doctors at those types of places are more open minded and down to earth, not all judgemental and rude and condescending.

Just know that you aren’t doing anything wrong. This is a free country and you are a grown woman and perfectly entitled to make your own decisions that affect your life and your body.

Good luck! 


Post # 7
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Can a doctor refuse to do something like that? Are you in the USA?

I would be getting in touch with people in the higher ups. Hormones can be dangerous and it is in YOUR body. 

Get help asap!

Use condoms, natural family planning (temp charting) or a copper IUD if you prefer non hormonal. And also get yourself a book copy of “Taking Charge of your Fertility”. You could also chart which will not only get you in touch with your own body,prevent pregnancy but prepare you for baby time ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

If you and your fiance are both 100% OK with the possibility that you could immedietely get pregnant and have a baby in 9 months, then I think it is OK to get your Implanon taken out. 

You were saying you want to be hormone free.  I have the copper IUD which is hormone free and I LOVE!  Just a thought in case you would like the Implanon out but decided to wait longer to have kids.

Post # 9
10573 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Here, very few people would even have a gyno for birth control.  A GP takes care of most things.  Can your GP give you a referal instead?

Post # 10
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Unless you walked into the clinic high on heroin, I can’t figure out where that doctor gets off thinking she can decide whether or not you need to be on birth control. Use condoms, charting, female condom, spermicide – there are lots of other non-hormonal options that would be available for you to use. 


Post # 12
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can’t believe your doctor refused the referral.  I feel like that’s extremely unethical.  Even if you weren’t engaged to be married, that’s not her decision to make nor her place to pass judgement on your choices.  That’s incredibly frustrating.

Post # 13
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Miss Grape:  TCOYF is a great book! (It’s on my nightstand right now for a re-read.) Very informative, tunes you in to your body’s natural changes throughout your cycle, teaches you the different methods of non-hormonal BC/charting (temping, cervical fluid, etc). I highly recommend it. We’re BC free but charting to avoid and it’s been good so far. Using condoms on top of FAM (fertility awareness method, what they teach in the book) will be really useful. 

I had to pop in to say your Dr had no right to say that, and I agree with PPs that it’s worth your time and effort to seek out a GP, another OB/GYN, or even a clinic in your area that will help you out with making choices that work for you. After years on the pill, I feel so much better now that I’m off and just going with my natural cycles. I hope that things turn out for you and you find a better (supportive!) Dr. PM me if you have any Qs on the book, I’d be happy to share more info.

Post # 14
676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re doctor had no right to tell you that nor can she refuse you the right to decide you don’t want to be on birth control, and I was on implanon for 3 years and it was terrible, my doctor actually suggested we try just using condoms for a little while before I chose a new BC. I would definitely report her she cannot refuse you a refferal for something like that if she has no medical reasoning that it would be harmful for you to have it removed right now, even then it would still be your choice

Post # 16
3241 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would file a complaint with your state board if I was you.  It’s crossing a line of ethics for her to make that decision for you and not to allow you to make it for yourself.  

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