(Closed) Birth control method freakout :( PLEASE HELP!

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Why do you have to abstain while learning to chart? Just use condoms for the three months you’re abstaining, then go without them when you have the method down.

Post # 3
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Like you, I had AWFUL side effects on birthcontrol. No sex drive, depression, mood swings, etc.

I went off it and had a copper IUD. It was just what I needed. It was fantastic for about 2.5 years, then my periods started to get heavier. So I began to chart while I had the IUD, and we did NFP (avoiding fertile days & charting) until we decided to NTNP. I got another copper IUD after we had our daughter.

Those options proved to work best for us. I felt so much better on the IUD!

This is just my basic experience with it all, so if you have questions, ask away, and I’ll get into as much detail as you like!

Post # 4
869 posts
Busy bee

I LOVE my IUD! It’s absolutely one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I have the Mirena and not only have I had no pain/side effects, I also haven’t had a period since I got it put in! (My periods were incredibly painful, and I don’t miss them at all). 

Post # 5
3736 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have a Mirena IUD and I love it. When it comes due for replacement next year, I’ll have them insert a new one at that time. Before Mirena I did Nuvaring, the patch, Depo for 6 years, the pill… Mirena is my fave and I have no kids. To insert it, they just had to dialate my cervix a tiny bit. Easy, easy, easy! Totally recommend.

Post # 6
1504 posts
Bumble bee

Could the problem be because you aren’t consistently on the pill? You said you go off the pill when you won’t be having sex. My Doctor told me when I started the pill that the first three months could be rough with side effects but it should get better after that. I had horrible headaches the first few months but it eventually stopped. 

I think going on and off is making things worse for you. 

Post # 7
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Temple Beth Am/Love is Blind

I had terrible side effects from BC at first, and I am taking the lowest hormone dosge avaialble, but after several months plus incorporating a lot of vitamins I feel great and back to normal.  It is unbelievable what these hormones do to your system, and how little help doctors can be, but there are a lot of options, don’t let it make you feel so upset.

Post # 8
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Temple Beth Am/Love is Blind

MrsCallalily:  Agreed.  It is terrible to mess with your hormones like that.

Post # 9
2485 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I went on the pill before we got married so that it was in my system and “ready to use” when we got married (We weren’t having sex prior to this). My DH did not want me on it because he was worried what it would do to me (his ex apparently was really moody on it) but respected my decision to try. I was on it for about 6 months before deciding it wasn’t for me (complete lack of sex drive, no period…which was driving me crazy, increase in nosebleeds) so we stopped and now condoms are our method of BC. I know you say they aren’t feasible for you, but they work for us. 

Post # 13
239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I also hated being on birth control, which I was on consistently for about 8 years and had decreased sex drive, moodiness, increased acne and generally always felt like crap. I tried 3 or 4 different brands, but all had the same kind of side effects. I went off BC for a year and a half (while single) and then went and got a copper IUD, which I had in for a year before I met DH and the whole time my DH and I dated/were engaged (4 years total). I LOVED IT! I had no side effects other than slightly more cramping on day 1 of my period, but my flow didn’t increase at all and I felt like a million bucks most of the time. I was always super regular too.

I got the IUD it taken out two days before my wedding, it took two seconds and didn’t feel any worse than getting a pap done. I got pregnant 2 weeks later on the honeymoon and am now 15 weeks along. So there were absolutely zero fertility issues. When I got the IUD the doctor said the majority of fertility related risk was that STIs like chlamydia or infections like vaginosis could get into the uterus more easily from the IUD and cause scarring inside, but if you are not living a high risk lifestyle then your odds of issues are very small. The doctor also recommended coming in if I suspected any infection so it could be treated right away. One time I had slight bacterial vaginosis and took meds for 6 days and was fine.

Post # 15
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

peanut88:  I’m practicing NFP and it’s been awesome for us. We completely abstain during the fertile period, but you could use condoms. Just know that using condoms (rather than abstaining) increased the chance of pregnancy for obvious reasons. I like knowing that i’m not pumping anything into my body and there is nothing between us when we have sex. 🙂 It took me about two months to learn to chart and read my body signs. 

I know and respect my body in a completely different way than before! It does create a bit of a honeymoon period when you abstain and come back together after a few days. I would totally recommend Natural Family Planning, especially if you’re worried about putting extra hormones in your body.

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