Post # 1
This might be a little Too Much Information but that’s why it’s in the intimacy section 🙂
To start, I’ve never had a good experience with hormonal birth control. I got the Depo shot once and bled for over 2 months, I ended up so sick and exhausted. Every brand of pill has made me gain weight, break out and turn into a raging bitch. Recently I tried going on a low dose pill and after 4 months, I’ve had enough. My vj is so dry that it itches like crazy all the time. I can’t get wet for sex and I’ve been moody ever since I started taking them.
We have a one year old, and avoiding pregnancy for the time being is absolutely a priority. My cycle is like clockwork, and pulling out always worked for us before. I know that sounds ignorant, but I would never rely on that method around my ovulation time. I’ve come to the point where I can’t put my body through this anymore and I would rather him pull out/use condoms from now on. SO is on board 100%, he can see the difference in me and just wants me to be comfortable.
Has anyone else have these kinds of issues with birth control? It seems like none of my friends have had a problem, but I’ve never found one that “worked” for me. I don’t know why my body reacts so poorly, it’s frustrating 🙁
Post # 3
I’ve never used a pill for birth contol, but have been using the NuvaRing for years and love it. I’ve never had any issues with it at all. Have you tried something other than a pill?
Post # 4
I had many of the same issues and just couldn’t take BC because they got so bad. I don’t trust the IUD because it almost killed my mom and left her sterile, I know that was the old version, but it just had me mentally freaked out. I suggest you go with a spermacide. I used it for years with no issues as long as I took a day off in between uses of it and we just used condoms on the off days. I just found out, after Darling Husband got clipped, that some insurance companies will cover condoms if you cannot used BC pills so that would allow you to use something thinner and more natural like the lamb skins without the high price.
Post # 5
@Josina: I’ve tried the Depo shot, and after that I’m very uncomfortable with “long term” BC options. I’m pretty sure that all forms of hormonal BC would give me the same reaction, but honestly, I haven’t tried them all. My experiences so far have made me very unwilling to try anything else 🙁
@tksjewelry: The IUD terrifies me, my friend just had it removed for all the negative effects it was having on her. I will definitely look into the spermicide and insurance possiblity, I never thought they might cover it 🙂
Post # 6
Have you tried low estrogen pills? That is the only other thing I can think of. Even the ring is hormone based. I am getting fixed next week so I am no help. Good luck finding something that works!
Post # 7
We used spermicidal film for a while and it seemed to work pretty well. I 2nd that suggestion.
Post # 8
I have never used hormonal contraceptives because I don’t like the idea of pumping my body full of artificial hormones. Mr Rugbee & I have used a condom every single time for the past 6 years… He’s very understanding about it: if he ever complained I’d tell him to ditch the condom & be my baby daddy 😀
Post # 9
I hear ya. I’ve also tried various hormonal contraceptives and had horrendous reactions (similar to what you describe, plus constant nausea). Have you considered an IUD? There is a copper, non-hormonal one. It did not work out for me (fun fact: I have two uteruses! And neither likes IUDs) but I have several friends who had very positive experiences. I’ve given up so we’re back to good old fashioned condoms and we just started using natural family planning techniques (basal temp, etc). So far I’m not knocked up… so it seems to be working! 🙂
FYI, when you do it correctly, the pulling out method is actually very effective:
Good luck. I totally feel for you. I wish we could be those people that have nothing but great experiences with birth control pills. Ugh.
Post # 10
What about Paraguard? A non hormal form of BC. I would not leave it up to pulling out, condoms or spermicide.
Post # 11
I was really bad on estrogen based BC. I’d get all of the side effects in a commercial. I have a Mirena now and its great for me. Maybe look into the minipill?
Post # 12
My husband and I used the Billings Method for a while for similar reasons to yours. It allows you to use your body’s signals to know when you’re fertile so you can either avoid sex or use a barrier method during those times. It worked well for usaim both avoiding pregnancy and getting pregnant when we were ready. http://www.billingsmethod.com/
Post # 13
Some women have irritation with spermicide, so be aware!
Post # 14
the ring is hormonal but it is localized (to your vag) and isn’t systemic (goes into your blood stream). I always have a lot of issues with hormonal BC but the ring works great for me
Post # 15
I’ve always had issues with birth control, even when I got on a better brand that didn’t make me a sobbing mess it still made my mind feel dulled and just generally added to my “not well” feeling. I recently went off it and we’ve switched to the pull out method. So far I’m not pregnant! lol. It helps that I have PCOS, if I were 100% fertile I might be more nervous to rely on it. But I think if being on BC makes you feel like crap stop taking it. It’s seriously made me feel so much better. Condoms are a good option.
Post # 16
I know you wrote your friend had a bad experience with her IUD, but I wouldn’t rule it out completely. I have had issue upon issue with my period and uterus in general- spotting every day. After 2 years of tests and trying different bc, I saw a new doctor in my practice who recommended the Mirena IUD. I definitely hesitated because I have anxiety enough over a simple gyno visit, I wasn’t sure I could go through with the IUD insertion. I eventually did it because it was my best option of the 3 choices my doctor gave me- I had to do something because the cause for my issues were pre-cancerous cells in my uterus that needed to be treated. So, I got the IUD, experienced mild spotting on and off for 6 months (normal) and really mild cramping in the beginning…and now 6 months later I couldn’t be happier. No more spotting, no more cramps and a period that doesn’t even last a day. One of my best friends got her IUD a week before mine and she also loves it- she didn’t really experience the spotting and cramping in the beginning like I had. Anyway, it has succesfully treated the cells in my uterus and now my Fiance and I are going to TTC right after our wedding. I’m nervous about getting the IUD out because I don’t want to go back to painful heavy periods or any of the other issues I experienced.