(Closed) Birth control, nothing but problems.

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
702 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Iowa

I’ve never used a pill for birth contol, but have been using the NuvaRing for years and love it. I’ve never had any issues with it at all. Have you tried something other than a pill?

Post # 4
14492 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I had many of the same issues and just couldn’t take BC because they got so bad.  I don’t trust the IUD because it almost killed my mom and left her sterile, I know that was the old version, but it just had me mentally freaked out.  I suggest you go with a spermacide.  I used it for years with no issues as long as I took a day off in between uses of it and we just used condoms on the off days.  I just found out, after DH got clipped, that some insurance companies will cover condoms if you cannot used BC pills so that would allow you to use something thinner and more natural like the lamb skins without the high price.

Post # 6
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Have you tried low estrogen pills?  That is the only other thing I can think of. Even the ring is hormone based. I am getting fixed next week so I am no help. Good luck finding something that works!

Post # 7
7774 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

We used spermicidal film for a while and it seemed to work pretty well. I 2nd that suggestion.

Post # 8
2226 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I have never used hormonal contraceptives because I don’t like the idea of pumping my body full of artificial hormones. Mr Rugbee & I have used a condom every single time for the past 6 years… He’s very understanding about it: if he ever complained I’d tell him to ditch the condom & be my baby daddy πŸ˜€

Post # 9
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hear ya. I’ve also tried various hormonal contraceptives and had horrendous reactions (similar to what you describe, plus constant nausea). Have you considered an IUD? There is a copper, non-hormonal one. It did not work out for me (fun fact: I have two uteruses! And neither likes IUDs) but I have several friends who had very positive experiences. I’ve given up so we’re back to good old fashioned condoms and we just started using natural family planning techniques (basal temp, etc). So far I’m not knocked up… so it seems to be working! πŸ™‚

FYI, when you do it correctly, the pulling out method is actually very effective:

Good luck. I totally feel for you. I wish we could be those people that have nothing but great experiences with birth control pills. Ugh.

Post # 10
2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

What about Paraguard? A non hormal form of BC. I would not leave it up to pulling out, condoms or spermicide. 

Post # 11
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was really bad on estrogen based BC. I’d get all of the side effects in a commercial. I have a Mirena now and its great for me. Maybe look into the minipill?

Post # 12
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1996

My husband and I used the Billings Method for a while for similar reasons to yours. It allows you to use your body’s signals to know when you’re fertile so you can either avoid sex or use a barrier method during those times. It worked well for usaim both avoiding pregnancy and getting pregnant when we were ready.  http://www.billingsmethod.com/

Post # 13
3967 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Some women have irritation with spermicide, so be aware!

Post # 14
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

the ring is hormonal but it is localized (to your vag) and isn’t systemic (goes into your blood stream). I always have a lot of issues with hormonal BC but the ring works great for me

Post # 15
2141 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’ve always had issues with birth control, even when I got on a better brand that didn’t make me a sobbing mess it still made my mind feel dulled and just generally added to my “not well” feeling. I recently went off it and we’ve switched to the pull out method. So far I’m not pregnant! lol. It helps that I have PCOS, if I were 100% fertile I might be more nervous to rely on it. But I think if being on BC makes you feel like crap stop taking it. It’s seriously made me feel so much better. Condoms are a good option.

Post # 16
826 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I know you wrote your friend had a bad experience with her IUD, but I wouldn’t rule it out completely. I have had issue upon issue with my period and uterus in general- spotting every day. After 2 years of tests and trying different bc, I saw a new doctor in my practice who recommended the Mirena IUD. I definitely hesitated because I have anxiety enough over a simple gyno visit, I wasn’t sure I could go through with the IUD insertion. I eventually did it because it was my best option of the 3 choices my doctor gave me- I had to do something because the cause for my issues were pre-cancerous cells in my uterus that needed to be treated. So, I got the IUD, experienced mild spotting on and off for 6 months (normal) and really mild cramping in the beginning…and now 6 months later I couldn’t be happier. No more spotting, no more cramps and a period that doesn’t even last a day. One of my best friends got her IUD a week before mine and she also loves it- she didn’t really experience the spotting and cramping in the beginning like I had. Anyway, it has succesfully treated the cells in my uterus and now my Fiance and I are going to TTC right after our wedding. I’m nervous about getting the IUD out because I don’t want to go back to painful heavy periods or any of the other issues I experienced. 

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