(Closed) Birth Control…virgin bride.. wedding a week away

posted 8 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

have you thought about a pill with less estrogen?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Pulling out is not necessary if you are wearing condoms. Just make sure he knows how to put a condom on properly, tell him to practice before or something.

Honestly, I would just go on the pill. I’ve been on the pill for 8 years and never had any side effects. I’ve changed the type of pill many times and never had adverse effects.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Even if you start taking the pill tomorrow, it won’t be effective in preventing pregnancy for two weeks.  So I’d definitely bring plenty of condoms with you, and maybe read up on how to use one (seems silly, but you want to be sure!).

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

EveryBODY is different and there’s not a one size fits all approach to BC, but in my personal experience, the pill works for me. I’ve been on it for almost 6 years now and take it regularly and have never had any type of issue.  But again, that’s just me.

As far as “pulling out” is concerned, my thoughts are simple and to the point – if it’s both you and your soon-to-be-hubby’s first experience (kudos to you on that, btw) – it may not be an option – (sorry i could not say this more eloquently) as he might not to when to!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

First off, I don’t know that the patch is a good route if you’re trying to get around stomach problems.  The patch is much higher dose and even though it doesn’t go through the stomach, my friend who used it had horrible nausea the entire time.

If condoms are used correctly, you don’t need to worry about pulling out.  Just because you want to wait to have sex doesn’t mean you can’t wait to use condoms, though.  Buy a bunch and a couple of bananas.  Or have your Fiance practice on his own, if you’re okay with that.  Also, make sure they’re the right size because that can be a cause of tears. 

Also, just because your mom had problems with the pill doesn’t mean you will, especially if she hasn’t taken it recently.  The doses have gotten much lower in recent years, so a lot of the side effects are much milder than they were. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

1) What is the reason that you both don’t love the idea of using the pill?  If it’s because of how your mom reacted to it, remember that was decades ago and there are a lot more choices and personalization in terms of the pill these days.

2) You SHOULD be fine with using just a condom.  They do not have as much of a safety rate as with the pill but I think it’s still 97%.  I would skip the spermicide though, and you do not need to pull out if you use a condom.  Using one for the first time should not really be difficult, please feel free to PM me if you would like some tips (I am NOT shy about this kind of thing hehe)

3) I’m not sure what side effects of the pill could “ruin” your fun…?

4) What is the Lady Comp?  (Don’t want to google this because I’m at work)

Edited to add: Personally I would just take the pill.  But as PP suggested, I would consider using a backup since you’ll only be on it a week.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

hey if you use condoms you dont have to pull out, the condom will protect you from the sperm getting inside you. since its your first time i would recommend condoms and lubricant (some lubricants kill sperm also.) def do not do the rhythm method, that is for when you are both expierenced and he knows when to pull out before he ejaculates in you, which for first timers arent really sure since its your and SO first time.  i was on teh pill and i hateed it but everyone’s bodys are different. i know the risk of serious side effects from the pill aren’t that common BUT if you still are unsure and dont feel comfortable dont take it. when i was on it, it made me very moody…

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Use a condom and don’t worry about pulling out.  As long as the condom doesn’t break, which is rare, you’ll be fine.  Enjoy every minute and don’t let it stress you out and keep you from enjoying wedding week.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I think starting something new so close to the wedding is a bad idea. Using condoms with spermicidal lube sounds like the best (maybe only) solution for you right now. We did pulling out as well at first for peace of mind. I would STRONGLY recommend this for you too. Condoms break, especially if you’re just learning. You do not want to be stressing about Plan B on your honeymoon. 

Later on you might want to experiment with low-dose birth control. Regular pills gave me side effects, but I’ve been fine with low-dose so far. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Have you considered NFP? If you know when your fertile days are, that might ease your mind about side effects. Otherwise, I would talk with your physician, tell them about the side effects that your mom had and why you are concerned about various types of BC. Not to belittle anyone’s opinion here, but WE have no idea what is best for you because a. most of us aren’t doctors and b. those of us that are doctors haven’t seen your medical history or given you a physical.

A note on “pulling out…” Make sure you use a condom. Its not called “pull & pray” for no reason! 🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You may have to experiment with some different birth control methods before you find the ideal one that works best for you and your SO. For me, I started with just condoms/pulling out (doing both may not be necessary, but for us, we were nervous so we did both.) Later on, I was getting too worried about an accidental pregnancy and so to avoid that stress (and to curb my monthly cramps) I went on the pill. I got very lucky and the first one I tried went great, but a lot of my friends have had to try multiple types before settling on one they reacted okay to.

It sounds like on your wedding night, you won’t have been on the pill long enough for it to be effective yet, anyway. If you are super concerned about the pill having a negative effect on you based on your mom’s experience with it, you might consider using a condom for the first week, then introducing the pill when the hormones driving you nuts won’t ruin your wedding day/night. Your Fiance can try practicing putting on a condom in advance if you’re worried about that. The thing is, your first time may be slightly awkward, but that’d be the case whether or not you use a condom, and that’s normal! The thing is, it’ll be incredibly special for you both because its the first time and you are husband and wife.

 

Good luck!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Someone please correct me if I’m wrong, but I think it takes about a month for the pill to kick in anyway… so you’re probably going to want to use condoms for awhile. I understand why you may not be too excited about hormonal bc, some people are fine on it and others (like me) just aren’t. Like others have said, you don’t need to worry about pulling out with a condom, just relax and have fun!

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