(Closed) Birthday budget

posted 4 weeks ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Are you saying you gave several family members a list of items you would be prepared to pay 95% towards for their birthday as a gift?  Why would you even ask them to pay 5% of the gift, it’s such a small amount why wouldn’t you just find something more affordable?

I’ve definitely never done that, but your post is confusing. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

 

mathlove10 :  I’m not following, you’re giving other family members gift ideas for upcoming birthdays so you can get a group gift? The way it reads, it sounds like the people with the birthdays will be paying 5% of their own birthday gifts, so I’m assuming I’m reading it wrong.

If this is how gifts are done in your family, via group gifts, I don’t see anything wrong with that.

If I’m reading it correctly and you’re saying “happy birthday, I would like to buy this gift for you but you need to pay 5% of it”, I’m not sure how I would react to be honest 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

mathlove10 :  you’re asking your relatives to pay 5% of their birthday present?

Err… no. If you can’t afford to get them something without them contributing, then set yourself a smaller budget. If you know you have multiple birthdays in a month, then save up beforehand.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Maybe give them a card and pay for it in full, yourself?  Or just post a note on their FB page, or send them a text?  I would be less than joyus if I recieved a bill with a present…

Post # 6
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892 posts
Busy bee

… what?

Post # 7
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607 posts
Busy bee

mathlove10 :  You require gift recipients pay 5% toward their own gift? Why be so generous? Why not ask for 10 or 15%? After all, your relatives should be honored you’re doing all the shopping. Are they really expecting a gift with no strings attached, given from the heart, out of love? The nerve! 

Post # 8
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4757 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

bearinabeecostume :  I’m just over here hoping it was worded awkwardly lol

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Definitely not a thing in traditional American culture. Where do you live bee?

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’ve literally never heard of not paying someone’s whole gift, that’s a pretty unique set up. I have to ask, if you were going to pay 95% why not just go the whole hog for the sake of a little more?

Is there a reason you are posting this? Did it not go down well? 

mathlove10 :  

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ve literally never heard of anyone giving any one else a gift, regardless of age, where they expected the recpient to pay for a portion of it. If you know a friend is saving up for an expensive item you could always give them a giftcard to help cover some of the cost.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Really? If I’m going to pay for my own gift, I’ll just buy it. As an adult, and as a child, I have never given a gift with the expectation that the recipient of that gift would have to pay a single penny for it. And I’ve never been asked to contribute to a gift someone was getting for me. I’ve never heard of such a thing.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

mathlove10 :  then why are you asking? Clearly someone made you question the practice because you are asking us what we think

If this is the only thing you’ve heard of, and it’s accepted by everyone you know, you wouldn’t be posting here asking our thoughts

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I don’t understand what you’re asking. What’s with the 5%? Is that dime family tax?

For gifts, you give what you can afford. Just give cash if it’s all about the money.

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