Post # 1
Hi bees. Please go easy on me as I’m feeling super sad and emotional, and I’m looking for some support. Yesterday was my birthday. And I’m not the type of person that requires a big fuss for birthdays. But something would be nice. For example, last year my boyfriend got me a card and he cooked me my favorite dinner and I was super happy! This year, I’m beyond disappointed and hurt. The BF and I are spending the weekend with my parents, and all they did this year was tell me happy birthday.. No card. No gift. No dinner (I had to go buy myself fast food). No cake. Nothing special at all.
Plus, I got into a huge fight with my boyfriend…and it has been pretty tense between us for the rest of the night. I pretended that I’m tired and want to go to bed just so I don’t have to be around anybody. But really it’s because I’m so hurt. I always go the extra mile to make everybody’s birthday super nice and it’s hurtful that they wouldn’t do the same for me. Am I being overly emotional, or would you guys be hurt too? xoxo
Post # 2
I’d be pretty bummed too. Does your family usually make a big deal about birthdays? From your post it seems like cakes and special dinners are the norm, so I’d be put out too if suddenly this year there was barely an acknowledgement. I know people will say we’re adults and birthdays aren’t a big deal, but I don’t see hoping for a card or SOMETHING as being too much to ask for, especially if birthdays are typically celebrated in your family. I’m sorry you had a crappy birthday. Happy belated birthday anyway!
Post # 3
yes. i would be hurt. One day in college everyone forgot to wish me happy birthday, including my parents. I didn’t have an FB account so I couldn’t console myself with that either. Choosing to go to bed is a good option. I ate an entire carton of ben and jerry’s (not the small kind). don’t be like me.
Post # 4
Um no id be livid but I’m bias. This was a major issue in my marriage and we ultimately divorced cuz he just put 0 effort into anything at all and frankly if you love someone you go the extra mile and I always do. So this time around I’ve made it abundantly clear I won’t tolerate the excuses ever again so I sorta put the best on my fiance to put thought into things but initiative and thought is how I read love and I can’t fix that. Id be seriously evaluating some things in your relationship, bee
Post # 5
I would definitely be bummed if both my parents and boyfriend failed to awknowledge my birthday by doing at least something small but special. It’s beyond weird to me that nobody even thought to get a cake. But then again, everyone in my family has a major sweet tooth so any excuse for cake is quickly taken advantage of.
I don’t know what your fight was about, but I’d also be bummed if my partner didn’t make an extra effort to be nice to me on my special day.
I’m sorry bee!
Post # 6
Thanks for the birthday wish! ❤ Birthdays aren’t a huge deal in my family – they are always small and intimate, which I love. But we always celebrate with cards (maybe a few gifts), balloons in the person’s favorite color, and the person’s favorite dinner and dessert. Doing nothing is so out of character for them, so I considered they might be planning to celebrate my birthday tomorrow on Sunday. But, it’s ruined for me – no lie. xoxo
That’s horrible!! Luckily, they did at least remember to tell me happy birthday and even more lucky… there’s no ice cream in the house.
And that’s what’s so crazy about it. My BF is usually so thoughtful. I’ll walk into rose petals and candles for no reason at all, but for my birthday there was nothing. It’s just weird. And the fact that we argued on top of that made me feel 1000% shittier.
Yes, that’s exactly how I’m feeling. My family AND my boyfriend didnt do anything AND then we fought on top of it. Smh. He did try to smooth things over after the fight because he said didn’t want me to be upset on my birthday. But, the damage was already done at this point. This is by far, one of the worst birthdays I’ve had. Plus, he told me to pack a nice dress and get my nails done for my birthday…all of which I did…for no freaking reason.
Post # 7
I would be hurt too, especially if I put in effort into celebrating other people’s, as you have done.
Post # 8
Are you sure there’s no surprise coming up? This seems v odd
Post # 9
Happy birthday!!!!!!! <3
And no it’s not odd. Or at least, I love birthdays – not just mine, everybody’s – so I understand.
Post # 10
Happy birthday bee!! If he’s said pack a dress and get your nails done there’s still a chance there may be some plans in the works. I pulsar get your hopes up just in case there isn’t but don’t be too sad yet. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day! Hugs
Post # 11
He told you to pack a dress and get your nails done for your birthday, and then did nothing for you? I’d be upset too. Has he offered an explanation for getting your hopes up and then dashing them?
Post # 12
I don’t even really like celebrating my birthday (don’t you dare sing happy birthday to me!), but a nice card and dinner is kind of our norm. I’m sorry you had a crappy birthday.
Post # 13
Thank you. I feel better at least knowing that I’m not being petty or overly bratty about the situation. xoxo
It really is odd, so I do suspect that maybe there is a surprise planned for today. But I’m still so sour about yesterday that I think any surprise at this point will be wasted. You know?
Thank you for the birthday wishes and for the support. xoxo
I think they are planning something for today. They told me to dress nicely so we can take pictures at the lake. But, I’m kind of over it..and pretty salty.
Nope! Maybe he wanted me to dress nicely and have a new manicure to take pictures at the lake? He did mention doing that today…but it’s just a guess because I genuinely have no clue.
Thank you for the support. xoxo
Post # 14
Happy birthday!!!! I hope they have something special planned today. I agree with a PP, it sounds like they may have a surprise planned.
Keep us posted!!!
Post # 15
I’m sorry bee. I make a big deal out of people’s birthdays because I know it’s kinda nice to feel special on that one day a year. I’m like you, I don’t need fancy gifts or anything but a nice card and some effort at cooking a meal or perhaps a cake really makes my day.
I do hope they have something fun planned for today but it does seem strange that they wouldn’t have just done it yesterday.