(Closed) Birthday Disappointment

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’d be pretty bummed too. Does your family usually make a big deal about birthdays? From your post it seems like cakes and special dinners are the norm, so I’d be put out too if suddenly this year there was barely an acknowledgement. I know people will say we’re adults and birthdays aren’t a big deal, but I don’t see hoping for a card or SOMETHING as being too much to ask for, especially if birthdays are typically celebrated in your family. I’m sorry you had a crappy birthday. Happy belated birthday anyway!

Post # 3
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343 posts
Helper bee

yes. i would be hurt. One day in college everyone forgot to wish me happy birthday, including my parents. I didn’t have an FB account so I couldn’t console myself with that either. Choosing to go to bed is a good option. I ate an entire carton of ben and jerry’s (not the small kind). don’t be like me. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Um no id be livid but I’m bias. This was a major issue in my marriage and we ultimately divorced cuz he just put 0 effort into anything at all and frankly if you love someone you go the extra mile and I always do. So this time around I’ve made it abundantly clear I won’t tolerate the excuses ever again so I sorta put the best on my fiance to put thought into things but initiative and thought is how I read love and I can’t fix that. Id be seriously evaluating some things in your relationship, bee

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

I would definitely be bummed if both my parents and boyfriend failed to awknowledge my birthday by doing at least something small but special. It’s beyond weird to me that nobody even thought to get a cake. But then again, everyone in my family has a major sweet tooth so any excuse for cake is quickly taken advantage of.

I don’t know what your fight was about, but I’d also be bummed if my partner didn’t make an extra effort to be nice to me on my special day.

I’m sorry bee! 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I would be hurt too, especially if I put in effort into celebrating other people’s, as you have done.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Are you sure there’s no surprise coming up? This seems v odd 

Post # 9
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Worker bee

Happy birthday!!!!!!! <3

And no it’s not odd. Or at least, I love birthdays – not just mine, everybody’s – so I understand.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

Happy birthday bee!! If he’s said pack a dress and get your nails done there’s still a chance there may be some plans in the works. I pulsar get your hopes up just in case there isn’t but don’t be too sad yet. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day! Hugs

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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bluecutie00 :  He told you to pack a dress and get your nails done for your birthday, and then did nothing for you?  I’d be upset too.  Has he offered an explanation for getting your hopes up and then dashing them?

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t even really like celebrating my birthday (don’t you dare sing happy birthday to me!), but a nice card and dinner is kind of our norm. I’m sorry you had a crappy birthday.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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bluecutie00 :  Happy birthday!!!! I hope they have something special planned today. I agree with a PP, it sounds like they may have a surprise planned. 

Keep us posted!!!

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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bluecutie00 :  I’m sorry bee. I make a big deal out of people’s birthdays because I know it’s kinda nice to feel special on that one day a year. I’m like you, I don’t need fancy gifts or anything but a nice card and some effort at cooking a meal or perhaps a cake really makes my day.

I do hope they have something fun planned for today but it does seem strange that they wouldn’t have just done it yesterday.

Happy birthday!!

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