Post # 1
It’s my husband’s grandma’s 85th birthday this weekend! We’re travelling a few hours away and it’s a nice party at a restaurant with 20-ish people. We obviously want to get a gift, but I’m kind of at a loss what to get for someone that age.
She’s pretty well off and is kind of in “can’t-take-it-with-you” mode financially (she gave us a VERY large wedding gift and just sent my husband a large check for his birthday) so my normal go-to gift options (restaurant gift cards, write a check, etc.) seem kinda silly. She’s in relatively good health but still has some major issues – mostly her heart. So, a fine bottle of liquor or nice bottle of wine also seems pretty silly. She regularly attends broadway shoes and is a member of a number of art museums and cultural establishments in her area.
I was thinking a nice bouquet of flowers and some fine chocolates – but I don’t know if she can really eat too many sweets and I don’t want to look cheap. I have never really handled a gift giving situation like this (all of my grandparents passed before I was 20) so I’m not really certain the etiquette. I want to give her something nice that will let her know she’s appreciated and loved by her grandkids and will commemorate the big milestone birthday. Our budget is ~$200
Any advice what she might like or appreciate? Or might be appropriate for an occassion like this?
Post # 2
Does she like to read? Perhaps a book or two that you think she might like. Flowers and chocolates are also lovely!
Post # 3
AnonBee2019 : my default with my grandma is a bunch of flowers. She doesn’t care about the monetary amount that you spend on her but she does appreciate the gesture of flowers. It’s especially nice if you can find out what her favourite flowers are.
Other things my grandma would like are photos. So does she have a digital photo frame? Or could you do a nice album from your wedding if you married recently?
Post # 4
Nice candles? Maybe a framed photo of you and your siblings (if you have any)?
Post # 5
AnonBee2019 : As she is very much involved in the arts community, attending Broadway shows and museums, etc., a beautiful embroidered cashmere shawl would surely be appreciated. Something like these:
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2020 - Concord, Ontario
A framed photo of the three of you. I know that my grandmothers are very sentimental and they like looking at pictures. Or a book if she enjoys reading
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2019 - Sandpoint, ID
If you’re any good at drawing or painting, you could paint or draw her a picture of a vase filled with flowers since she loves the arts. Honestly, you could probably even do a paint by numbers and frame it. Then get a nice card and write a letter telling her how much she’s loved and appreciated.
Post # 8
A framed photograph and a bouquet of flowers.
Post # 9
claroquesi : Wow – she wore something almost identical to this to our wedding! You really nailed it
I love the idea of a framed photo – duh! what a great idea! Glad I asked the hive.
I was in my head because I really wanted to get something *nice* that I just had a mental block over wanting to give a generous gift since she’s been so generous with us and giving a gift to a person who doesn’t really need anything
I think I’ll frame a picture and get some flowers the morning of the party
Post # 10
I like the idea of flowers, knowing that many older folks just don’t want “things” anymore. (Even though I really do like some of the suggestions you’ve gotten.)
Also, if you know she really likes fresh flowers, there are monthly flower delivery clubs/services that you could set up for 3 or 6 or 12 months (or whatever) so that it’s not just a ‘one and done’ – she could look forward to a new small arrangement for a few months.
Post # 11
Etsy has really nice pressed flower necklaces.
Post # 12
Flowers always to my mind if you don’t really know a persons tastes. Though that beautiful thing that claroquesi posted is just lovely.
lf l might suggest, perhaps stop thinking about her as defined by age so much , and just consider what she might like. People don’t stop being normal complex beings because they are older. Just sayin’
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Just an idea but if she is into the arts how about donating an art award to local elementary school in her name?”The Mrs Whosit’s Art Award”. The child gets to keep it for the summer. It encourages and rewards a child for feeling passionate about art. We did this for my mum after she passed away ( her award was for a child who was enthusiastic about science) because we knew she would have loved to encourage a child. It is not expensive as you just have to purchase the award and have it engraved, and of course, the school needs to be the type that still gives out end of year awards.
Post # 15
elderbee : I know, that’s why I included info about her interests (broadaway shows, art, museums).
I just think it would be disingenuous to ignore the fact that her health is deterioriating and that can affect ones ability to enjoy certain things. And also that many people towards the end of their life have different relationships with money and “stuff”