Birthday gift for an 85 year old

posted 1 month ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 16
135 posts
Blushing bee

Does she already have memberships in her favorite museums?

Post # 17
3068 posts
Sugar bee

motogal :  Sorry I didn’t see your question earlier, glad you found it!

Post # 18
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

AnonBee2019 :  My grandma is the same age, and in the same stage of life (doesn’t *want* any more stuff, has started giving things away)

What she likes the most, is time and experiences.  She loves shows and fine eating.  But what she loves the most, is time with us.  I would perhaps give her a voucher for a dinner or some sort of experience with the 3 of you if you can swing the travel again.  

Otherwise, I also love the idea of an award to a school.   Maybe a school one of her children went to?  Or some funding to a disadvantaged theatre group or something? 

Post # 19
3466 posts
Sugar bee

At that age, my grandmother loved luxury hand creams (like Caudalie or L’Occitane), candles, photos of us in frames, and flowers. 

If she loves Broadway, there are a lot of beautiful coffee table books out there she might enjoy.

Post # 20
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I bought my grandmother a nice cashmere cardigan sweater for her 90th birthday. I got it from my own favorite store (Aritzia) and she seemed to love it! Something that you pick out just for her will be well received. 

Post # 21
983 posts
Busy bee

I love the pre-arranged floral delivery idea. 


My grandmother loved a fancy box of chocolates (Madison du Chocolat or similar from a local chocolatier) all the way to her final days. 


Recent family photos, a book or documentary you think she might enjoy, tickets to an upcoming show she might enjoy, etc. At that age, many people value spending time with loved ones the most. And something thoughtful over more “stuff”.

Post # 22
323 posts
Helper bee

Last christmas I got my grandmother an Alexa, and then a smart hub with smart light bulbs. She wasn’t very excited at first, but once I set it up and showed her how she could play jeopardy, listen to Elvis and turn on and off her lamps with it she enjoyed it. Her health was also deteriorating so it was something that was also useful to her at that stage. 

Post # 23
2573 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I would say that at her age, the gift of time with you is something she would appreciate more than any typical gift.  Can you plan an afternoon where you do something together?  A painting class, see a play together, treat her to get her nails done, etc…

Post # 24
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

Could you take her somewhere, just the three of you? When my Nan was still with us, my cousins and I took her to a fancy hotel for afternoon tea, and then just went for a walk on the sea front. She absolutely loved it, it was a great day.

Post # 25
8919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

AnonBee2019 :  Doesn’t your husband have any ideas? What did he get her before you got married?

Post # 26
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

I second all PP’s citing that an experience would be the most valuable. Maybe find a new museum that she hasn’t been to and go with her, get lunch?

Post # 27
4533 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

AnonBee2019 :  


Expensive luxury skincare

Day out getting a manicure/pedicure/massage

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