(Closed) Birthdays on my wedding day

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
515 posts
Busy bee

I think it’s totally fine to only do the flower girl! As an adult, I would never expect someone to sing happy birthday to me at their wedding, especially if I wasn’t even family!

Post # 3
4025 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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futuremrssousa :  I think it would be awkward to sing for one person’s birthday and not another. And then who knows about how many other guests in attendance who may have birthdays on or near that day who might be thinking “What about my birthday?” I could not care less, but there are people like that. If you really want to acknowledge it, then I would probably have the DJ do a birthday shout out and maybe even dedicate a song to the flower girl (one of her favorites if appropriate). I don’t know that I’d do the same for the friend of your mother’s, and I’m sure she’d understand if you didn’t go out of your way to acknowledge it, unless she also has a role in your wedding like the flower girl does. You know her best and know if she would feel snubbed or not. I personally would not feel snubbed.

Post # 4
3449 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017


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futuremrssousa :  

One of my parent’s friends also had a birthday on our wedding day, but I’m sure they would have been mortified if we had sang to them or called any attention to it. I certainly would be if this happened to me at a wedding!

It was also my bridesmaids birthday though, so we sang, gave her a card and ate birthday cake while we were getting ready before the ceremony. I would do the same for your flower girl, presumably she will be with you for a little while during the getting ready process?

Post # 6
396 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think an adult friend of your mom is likely to be offended you didn’t celebrate her birthday at your wedding but did sing to the four year old flower girl,but I also think doing a little cupcake and song while you get ready with the flower girl would be less awkward than at the reception. 

Post # 8
8674 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

I honestly would be mortified if someone sang Happy birthday to me at THEIR wedding reception.  Even if they we’re celebrating a little kids birthday.

I’d also be mortified if anyone ever thought I would be jealous of a little kids birthday celebration, as an adult.

Max give her a card quietly after to let her know you didn’t forget, IMO.

Post # 9
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - San Diego, CA

I would just have the DJ announce that you wanted to wish a happy birthday to a couple people in attendance (no names) and you wanted to wish an especially happy birthday to your flowergirl for turning 4 

Post # 10
540 posts
Busy bee

Old people don’t like being reminder that they’re another year older anyways lol. Just sing to the flower girl if you feel so inclined! I’m sure she’d love that

Post # 11
1024 posts
Bumble bee

Either during getting ready or do a little cake for her at the rehearsal dinner!

Post # 12
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We had a few birthdays at our wedding too, we didn’t call anyone out but we did place a birthday card at the table setting for them. Seemed to be well received. 

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