(Closed) Bitchy Bridesmaid

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You need to have a blunt conversation with her. Tell her that the things she’s been saying and doing have been insensitive and have hurt your feelings. Ask her if she really wants to be a bridesmaid or if she felt obligated to say “yes”.  But tell her that if she can’t be more respectful, then you’ll need to replace her in the bridal party. She’s put you in a tough spot, but you need to stand firm and demand respect and kindness. Usually friends offer those up without us demanding it though…

Post # 4
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Yikes! This might be a case of jealousy, or perhaps she feels in competition with you? Some ladies must “one-up” others, even if they’re close. I agree that a conversation needs to happen with this fourth bridesmaid. You do have time (10 months or so) before your wedding, so if she isn’t thrilled to be your Bridesmaid or Best Man (which, quite frankly, she SHOULD be!) then perhaps offer her a gentle way out. If she continues to be confrontational or insulting, maybe it’s time to protect yourself and enjoy the preparations for your wedding without her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 5
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d say call her out on it and if she plays dumb, tell her bluntly that fine; since you’re not being supportive I don’t need the drama. I asked you to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man because I thought I could count on you and now you’re making me rethink this. Offer her a chance to shape up; if she doesn’t then consider trimming her from the Bridesmaid or Best Man line.

Post # 6
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree 100 with @BlondeBee and @mdbee23.

Unless she is willing to cut it out, you should consider giving her an out and hope to the high heavens she takes it. Or be blunt and kick her butt to the curb 😉

Post # 7
5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Tell your bridesmaid that she sucks at life, friends are supposed to life each other up…not crap all over each other and their mother’s jam.  Seriously, has she made jam?  It’s only slightly less complicated than building an atom collider…if it were me, I would maintain radio silence until she gets with the freaking program…and if that doesn’t work, you and the other BM’s go to her house and hit it with some jam…but not your Mom’s jam, bitch get’s Welch’s after pulling that shit.

Post # 9
5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@NDfan2009:  Sure thing!  We are now officially friends!  Want some jam…?  I know a lady that makes some Wink

Post # 10
556 posts
Busy bee

@NDfan2009:  she’s jealous. i would stop asking her opinion!

Post # 12
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@NDfan2009:  She sounds just like my sister. Undecided

Post # 14
8432 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I really dislike when women go directly to the she’s jealous defense (not directed at you OP btw). It does nothing for the reputation of women on the whole. And makes the world think we are all jealous, bitchy, immature girls.

Also would someone that is jealous really say to a bride- that dress isn’t good enough- thus hinting that she thinks there is a far more fabulous dress out there.

Obviously your friend is highly opinionated- is she like this in normal life as well? Some people just are like that.

Just talk to her and let her know that when she says the things she does it makes you feel (insert whatever you are feeling).



Post # 16
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

She sounds rigid, inflexible, and don’t fool yourself, she’s a tad jealous…and not much of a friend in my opinion. Talk to her one-on-one, address your concerns and tell her she’s done and invite her as a guest. You don’t want to deal with this now, think of how you’re going to feel when you’ve got less than a month and you’re ready to do her bodily harm… 


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