(Closed) Bitten by the jealousy bug doesn’t even begin to describe it…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I know what it feels like to wait… we’ve been together 7 years, 5 1/2 of those years were LDR.  I moved to be in the same city as him and have been waiting ever since.   I do my best not to bring it up all the time b/c I know he wants to marry me, but it’s really hard when we’ve got 5 weddings to attend this year.

You are doing the right thing trying to keep your mind off of it. It sounds like you and him really love each other and I’m sure he’ll propose when the time is right.  That’s what I keep telling myself…. and don’t feel bad about being jealous, I feel it all the time.  I am genuinely happy for our friends that are getting married and I would never let my jealousy interfere with my joy celebrating with them, but it is hard waiting for your time!

Post # 5
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hi,

I totally know how you feel! For years and years i’ve been hearing about all of my friends getting engaged and married before me. My Fiance and I have been dating for almost 6 years and living together for more than 5. Every summer since we started dating we’ve gone to at least one good friend’s wedding. It started getting even worse over the christmas holidays this year when three of my very best friends (one who has been married for 5 years and the other two for less than 2 years) announced that they were pregnant. I mean, thats great, but holy I was jealous! Plus I’ve always wanted my neices to be flower girls and they’re getting older and older……

I can’t really relate with that whole long distance thing. I did that once and it just didn’t work out.. But I can tell you that if you hold on to hope I’m sure he’ll step up. It sounds like he’s almost ready to ask you… Boys sometimes just don’t operate on the same kind of timeline as we do, ya know?

Post # 6
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935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Oh hon, I don’t see why he would break his promise to you. He’s never let you down, right? I’m glad you can vent here and get your mind off of it. Also, you never know…he might have his plans that night to throw you off. 

Post # 7
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1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Aw, I know waiting is hard.  I know this might be annoying to hear, but I’m going for it anyway:  you’re young.  You’ve got tons of time and are very fortunate that you’re not in a position where you’re having to race against biology.  For us women in our thirties who are waiting for marriage to have kids, waiting takes on a whole nother level of urgency.  When it gets hard, I urge you to think of that.  Hopefully, it’ll make it just a little easier.

Are you guys going to move in together (or at least locally) when he finishes grad school?  Does he attend school out of state but live locally?  Have you ever lived together before?  It might help to try and shift your focus from getting engaged to moving towards living together (or living locally, depending on your preferences.)  One step at a time, you know?

But hey, he’s not at the end of his timeline, he’s still got almost two whole months!  Keep the hope alive.  πŸ˜‰ 

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