Post # 1
Yay! He proposed.
Boo… I ruined it.
Last night we were having a great night of dinner and drinks at home.
I said I enjoyed making him dinner and look forward to our life together. Somehow the conversation turned bad. Really bad… I started saying how he had promised to propose when I moved in. Here it was a year later and nothing. He had TOLD me it would be in September. Then he was telling me our relationship was just in the “beginning stage” and he had been turned down for financing a ring… and lots more stuff. I told him he just didn’t want to marry me and that I was done. I was stupid to believe him and that he had tricked me into moving in with him by dangling a promised proposal… I was really hurt at this point and probably fueled by one too many drinks.
Then he goes into the room and changes into a nice “going out” outfit complete with hair product (which he never uses). He then says he was going to do this on Friday, but doesn’t want to lose me. He proposed… ring and all… He wasn’t upset with me like I thought he should be. He was just happy I said yes…
I’m happy, but feel horrible. Not that I “ruined” it now that I think of it. But that I was so impatient that I made him feel bad.
I want to get over this bad feeling because I am so happy that I get to marry this wonderful man.
Should I just suck it up? He says it was just mean to happen that way he guesses…
Post # 3
CONGRATS! Don’t feel bad! You were justified in having those thoughts and it was mean of him to pretend it wasn’t going to happen so it’s a damn good thing he was kidding! Laugh it off and consider it a funny story to tell! (And make him another dinner if it makes you feel better 🙂
Post # 4
First, ***HUGS!*** Congratulations on your engagement!
Secondly, I actually think that is a sweet story… I mean you were probably totally surprised he proposed to you, right? But I can understand how you feel, that you feel like your talk forced him into doing it right then. However, he wanted to make you happy so he proposed right then! I think you should be excited… I know that alcohol and emotions sometimes don’t mix and I know I have said all kind of things to my SO like that (to the tune of “why won’t you marry me!? haha). If he is not mad don’t worry about it! Oh, and you don’t have to tell people that exact story… you can do the whole “surprise proposal at home” type thing, if you don’t want to divulge anymore.
Again, congrats and happy planning! 🙂
Post # 5
I agree with PP’s- it makes a great story and you two will look back on this and laugh! I’m glad he still went through with it even when you were mad at him!
Congrats on being ENGAGED!
Post # 6
Dont feel bad, just suck it up and be happy! your getting married! =) Congrats!!
Post # 7
I mean, it sucks but the end result was the proposal.
If he isn’t mad about it then let it go.
Post # 8
I know quite a few people who have stories like yours. One of my coworkers was on a walk with her bf when he asked her to walk down a pier with him. She actually said to him, “I’m not walking down this pier unless you’re going to propose.” He was mad that she ruined the moment because he was planning to propose at the end of the pier, but they laugh about it now.
Post # 9
You guys are awesome! I feel better and I’ll stop overanalyzing and enjoy:) Thank you all. I’ll look at it from a different perspective. I’m engaged!!!
Oh, and I can’t figure out how to edit my post, but it was supposed to say “meant to happen that way”
Post # 10
Dont worry about it , you will look back at it and laugh … Congrats !
Post # 11
I know you feel like you almost backed him into a corner but it would have happened regardless. He had already bought you a ring and now it was just a matter of timing. I think it was really sweet of him to go and get all dressed up so that it was still a special moment.
Just enjoy your new engagement & congrats!
Post # 12
@blayne7: LOL @ your friend’s story! That is really sweet….
Post # 13
Congrats! & don’t think you ruined it. He wouldn’t have asked if he didn’t want to.