Bizarre RSVP….What to do?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB


Well it looks like they are saying the meals they want without the sauce or mushrooms.

They could probably just relay that info to their server when he or she comes around. But you probably should make note of it for the venue

Post # 3
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

LOL this is pretty funny, and also annoying.  i numbered my RSVP cards on the back to anticipate this problem, and we did have a few not put their names but no one made changes to the menu! hahaha i would wait until others come in to see if you can narrow things down…

Post # 4
1616 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Wait until you get your other RSVPs and see who is missing. Contact who is missing to see if they are coming. Chances are whoever sent that RSVP will say they sent it in. You could either tell them you had a RSVP with no names on it or that it must have gotten lost in the mail.

Post # 5
2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You should totally post a Facebook status that’s like, “Who here hates mushrooms and/or dill?” Anyone who answers “I hate mushrooms and my s/o can’t stand dill!” is totally your culprit. 😉

Post # 7
1261 posts
Bumble bee

I had my RSVP’s numbered on the back corner really tiny for this reason… we onyl had one couple RSVP without including their names….

KatieBklyn:  that’d do the trick!

Post # 8
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB


theshannondee:  I realized that after i wrote, sorry. We had one like that too. I have put it to the side. I am having place cards as well. so i certainly undertand why it’s so important

Post # 9
2612 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

Yeah, we numbered ours too and it was very helpful because I got back about 5 or so RSVPs with no names on it…and mine said “NAME(S)______________”  LOL. Had a few without names that had return address labels on the envelope though or I would check the postmark to see what city it came from just out of curiosity, but in the end my numbering system helped me out.

I think you’ll have to wait, or ask around to figure it out.

Post # 11
4716 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Well, do you know anyone who dislikes mushrooms and or dill? Or who is particularly opposed to sauces?

Post # 12
262 posts
Helper bee

KatieBklyn:  yea, post that and then add on, i got an rsvp with food requests in place of names.  make it a funny haha thing so nobody gets offended.  


but really, who tries to act picky, its not a resteraunt.  pick around what you dont like. hahaha

Post # 13
86 posts
Worker bee

theshannondee:  That is frustratingly funny.  I just got a weird rsvp card too but luckily my grandfather put a return address label on his envelope.  He gets points for creativity!

Post # 14
763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had one of these as well!  Actually, I kinda had two!  I had one where the guests forgot to write their names, so I had to track them down (as others have mentioned, just wait until all responses have come in and then narrow your search!), and I had another one where the guests basically re-wrote the menu and told me what they were eating. LOL

Sometimes you just gotta laugh!

Post # 15
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We had one with no names but it was a decline luckily.  We figured out who it was eventually though process of elimination.  You will probably just have to wait until the deadline and call everyone you didnt hear from to figure it out.  Lol that is so funny, though that they made meal alterations.  People are so weird. 

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