Post # 1
I started a new nursing job last fall and have done ok getting along with most of the people I work with. There’s one woman (we’ll call her Jean) that’s been there a long time who gossips like her life depends on it. I honestly think she believes the gossip she’s spreading. She’s so mean to this one guy we work with, she has everyone believing he’s so lazy and unsafe for the patients, but really he’s perfectly fine. She’s actually pretty obsessed about how much she hates him, and has even spread rumors about what his penis looks like. I think it makes her mad that I don’t have any problem with him.
Lately she’s set her sights on me and has started reporting me to the supervisor for fabricated things. A couple of weeks ago she reported me for sleeping at work. I felt so foolish telling my boss that it wasn’t true, it made it look like I was lying to get out of trouble because I’m sure my boss was wondering why would Jean bother making it up?… it must be true. She also spread a rumor that I made someone do an assignment that she didn’t want to do and wouldn’t let her have any breaks, but I did get her coverage for all her breaks and she tried to refuse the help but I wouldn’t let her because the supervisor had already assigned this girl to help. Jean told me how mad this other girl was about it with such a smug look on her face, she was enjoying it I could tell. I still don’t know it was even true that this girl was upset about her assignment, but she has people at work thinking I’m mean to the CNAs.
Just this morning I got called down to the supervisors office because Jean had told her yet another made up story. It’s a little long and pointless to explain in detail but I was again put in the position of saying “um no… that’s not what happened…” and looking like I have a habit of not doing my job correctly then lying about it to get out of trouble.
My husband thinks I should talk to someone and tell them that I feel like she’s making things up about me. I just feel like whatever she says is taken as gospel because she’s been there so long and it won’t look good for me to try and complain about her. But I keep getting spoken to based on these false accusations and I really can’t afford to lose my job. I almost feel like telling her I have bills to pay like everyone else, and my job is not a joke… I need it! She brags about other people she’s gotten fired and I just don’t want to be one of them. What would you do?? Should I just keep my mouth shut and defend myself each time I’m accused of something new or should I be proactive and talk to someone about it and risk making myself look like a drama queen?
Post # 3
Tell your boss she goes or I go.
Post # 4
I would talk to you boss and be as honest as you can about it. Tell her almost exactly what you told us that you are scared you are going to get fired based on false accusations this person is making about you. I think i would leave out the part about the gossip and her bragging about other people getting fired and strictly talk about the case at hand. That she keeps making up stories and you keep getting “talked to”. I would totally mention that the job is important to you, that you need it and you would never do anything that would jeopardize it.
I dont think i could just sit back and watch it all go down while jean laughs in the corner. Don’t be afraid to bring it up to your boss and stand up for yourself.
Post # 5
@maribonner: I am in no position to leave my job. Nursing jobs are hard enough to find, plus I’m pregnant. She’s been there forever so she won’t be going anywhere hahaha
I’m just worried about coming across like someone who has something to hide and being like “Oh pay no attention to the person reporting my inadequacies… she’s just crazy…” I mean it’s my word against hers and they all know her, I’m new.
Post # 6
It is really odd and tough. I feel for you, and good luck.
Post # 7
I’d go straight to HR. You do not have to put up with that and they should be aware. I can’t stand people who are so unhappy they have to suck the joy out of life for everyone else too. Hang in there!
Post # 8
without going into detail, I understand completely.
Post # 9
I would go to HR and/or your boss and explain what you told us. That multiple times she has made up accusations about you that are totally false and you are worried that you will lose your job over these made up incidents.
If it comes out of the blue instead of directly following an accusation, it will look much less like you are trying to cover your ass.
Post # 11
Definitely talk to someone about it – if not your boss, then HR like others have suggested. I might even consider documenting it in writing, as you did here, but in a more formal matter. That way it won’t seem so ridiculous (and like you are lying about the things she did).
Post # 12
yeah, I’d go to HR on this…what about that other guy, could the two of you go in together and back each other up? Or is there anyone else that would be willing to say ‘hey, this lady is off her rocker’?
but what a sucky situation for you to be in.
Post # 13
You need to speak with HR. It’s going to get out of hand. Do you work days? They may be observing you and/or asking other co-workers as well. Are you charge nurse at times and that’s why it’s coming out as you’re “unfair” to the CNAs? I know the hospital I work at – we have an assignment sheet that the charge RN must fill out. It’s always given to our director in the morning (I work overnights). So, if there ARE any problems, the assignment sheet can be referenced.
I wish you the best of luck with this. I know what it’s like to work with people that bitch about things that are untrue or uneccessary.
Post # 14
Also, are you represented by a union? Tell your steward right away.
Find out who your allies are so you can ensure that you have people who can back you up.
When you’re saying no, be sure you don’t sound defensive – something that works for me is to say, “You know, I really like Jean, but I feel like she’s reporting things that aren’t accurate. I’d like to have a strong working relationship with her, and I don’t want this to jeopardize our respective jobs. Can you help me think through how I can get past this?”
Post # 15
@zagora: I was wondering about the union as well. It’s really hard to fire RNs unless they REALLY screw up. IE: One of the RNs I worked with was fired because he never marked down that a patient had a pacemaker on his body chart. >.<
Post # 16
You definitely need to go to HR about this lady, and tell them everything she has said. Don’t they find it strange that she is the only one tattling on everyone?? Maybe if you actually say something, more people will stand up and agree that she is fabricating things.
I seriously doubt that they will keep her there just because she’s a long time employee if they are provided with info that she is trying to blackball other people…that’s illegal and she could be sued for harassment, and so could anyone who was notfied and allowed her to keep her job