(Closed) Black and white dress…how to ask?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it okay to request that guests wear black and/or white?
    Yes, even if you and Mr. Grape won't be in B&W : (34 votes)
    57 %
    Yes, but only if you and Mr. Grape adhere to the color scheme as well : (5 votes)
    8 %
    No, it's never okay : (21 votes)
    35 %
    Other? : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Oh, I love the idea of an opposite wedding reception.  I would put in a seperate card explaining the idea, I would think it would be fun.

    Post # 4
    3364 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I love love love this idea!

    We want to request Black Tie Dress at our “Almost Christmas Wedding” 

    Its not often you get to see everyone dolled up for an occasion and I love the POP of YOUR COLOR! Because in the end, thats what its about  YOU TWO and everyone else in the B&W Background!! 


    Post # 5
    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    If you have to edit in a “guests are not props” comment, don’t you think you’ve probably answered your own question?

    Post # 7
    1555 posts
    Bumble bee

    Oh your reception just sounds better and better!

    I think a card that says “The Bride and Groom request that you wear black and white to their party on November 22 (made up date).”

    Normally the bride is the only person in white, so you stand out. How is you NOT being in white any different? Love the idea, really.

    Post # 8
    3295 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    can i please come to your reception? i love this idea!!! i would think it was neat if i was a guest!

    Post # 9
    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    What about:

    Join us for a

    Black & White Affair

    Celebrating the marriage of Mr. & Mrs. Grape


    these tickets are kind of cool



    Post # 10
    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Honestly, I have a hard time finding any dress I like to wear to weddings. If I had to adhere, which I would totally feel like I had to with the note in the invitation, I would be somewhat annoyed. But I’m a “rule” follower. On the other hand, I think most women own a black dress so it isn’t like you are asking them to wear an uncommon color like yellow. Its easy for a man to do a black suit as well.

    If you decide to go with the idea, I think it is fine to wear your green dress.

    Post # 13
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think that’d be a fun idea! Black/white parties are common, and as another PP said, they’re common colors for guests to already have in their wardrobe. 

    You could include a playful black card with white writing explaining the black/white theme, and if you want to emphasize that you two get a color pop, the words Bride and Groom could be in colored ink. 


    Post # 14
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think it would be cool, but just be aware that a lot of people are afraid of wearing white to weddings… so you could end up looking a bit like a funeral…

    Post # 15
    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I don’t think you should worry about you and your hubby standing out because after all, the reception is for you two!

    Maybe if you ask in a fun way, like the ticket the PP attached or maybe in a rhyme.

    I think some people will appreciate the ease of finding a LBD or other item of black clothing to wear.

    Post # 16
    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Who doesnt have a LBD??? Easy!

    Which bloke doesnt have a white shirt and black pants-  easy!

    Great idea! Dont need to worry about any fancy camera work for the pop of colour, it will already be there!

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