(Closed) Black and White Tuxes – Advice

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
480 posts
Helper bee

You could put the groom in a bowtie and the men in ties, or vice versa. Or you could give the groom a different colored or type of bout (white rose for groom, babys breath for men). 

Dads usually wear a tux too, but I am unsure if its the same tux? 

Post # 5
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

What about a different colored buttoniere (like white) with a white picket square?

Post # 6
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I am doing a classic B&W tux for all the guys – I have the groomsmen in black bowtie & low vest and the Groom in a white bowtie & low vest.  


It all looks really classic next to each other – but the groom stands out.

Post # 7
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I would put a different boutineer on him – maybe more elaborate than the groomsmen.

I don’t know if I would put them in different types of ties – that might look strange in photos?

If they wear bowties – what if your husband wore a different print or color bowtie? Or if theyare in strainght ties, what if his looked different or had different colors? I would do that over putting him in a different style tie. 

Post # 8
3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sparklerunner: First, congratulations on choosing to have the men wear real Tuxedos.  Well done.

Different lapels are an option.  You could put thegroomsmen in cummerbunds and the groom Ina waistcoat IF you can get a proper waistcoat.  You will probably have to buy it; I’ve never seen a correct black waistcoat for rent, unless you get a White Tie waistcoat, which is a totally correct option.

If you want tsatay true to traditional black tie, I would give the groomsmen reign to choose their own Tuxedos, as long as they keep it correct.  That will mean ignoring EVERYONE who works at the rental shoo, or even the tailor in most cases, and going by the standards set out here: http://www.blacktieguide.com (this is what I would do)

In the above scenario, I would tell the groomsmen to wear turndown collars, and put the groom in a proper, detachable wing collar.  Wing collars really need a fixed size bow tie so you dont see a clasp.  You can special order this one as a non adjustable: http://www.beautiesltd.com/product/black-charmeuse-crepe-jewel-toned-bow-tie/black-bow-ties

If you want to be more subtle (which is a really, really awesome way to go, when it comes to formalwear) then you can put the groomsmen in standard satin bow ties, and the groom in a velvet one.

Lastly, while all of these ideas are great, the groom does not HAVE to stand out.  He will be noticeable as the one marrying the bride.


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