Post # 1
Our reception will be in the slightly rustic room of a German restaurant (think wood beams, hefty wooden tables, styled a bit like a German beer hall) so in order to class it up a bit we decided to add sparkly black runners to the tables. We don’t have a wedding party so there’s no color scheme for our wedding and our centerpieces are made from book page flowers, so they’re basically black and whatever off-white shade the book pages are. Black seemed to offset the centerpieces well and helped them stand out. Neither one of us really cares about the decor so we quickly made that decision and moved on. Except that when I mentioned this to my mom in an email, she apparently freaked out to the point where she’s had nightmares about our wedding. Great. She is of an older, more traditional, and Catholic generation so when she heard that she thought we were trying to have a goth-themed wedding or something and that it would look like a funeral. That honestly hadn’t occurred to me! I was looking at black as a classy color that wouldn’t conflict with the room and its weird pale green walls. In her defense, I am really into Halloween and decorate my house with skulls and creepy things like spiders year-round, so it’s not an entirely unreasonable assumption to think that I was trying to turn our wedding into a spooky event. Don’t tell her but I would love to have had a Halloween-themed wedding, but that seemed a little weird since we picked May for our wedding date.
Ordinarily I wouldn’t care and would continue planning the wedding we want, but I do kind of see her point now that she’s pointed this out. Fortunately we can switch to silver runners easily, which won’t look as good with the centerpieces but whatever. If the poor woman’s going to lose sleep over silly table runners that we don’t even care about then it’s a small concession to make for the woman who’s funding a large chunk of our wedding.
Just curious what younger, more hip people think. Would you find it weird to walk into a wedding and see black table runners and napkins? Would you start looking for the casket?
Post # 2
While I don’t think black is the best color for a wedding, I don’t think I’d immediately jump to “Oh no, it looks like a funeral.” I personally prefer brighter colors, especially for a celebration like a wedding, but that’s just me– if I were a friend of yours and knew black was your style, I’d totally expect it! Can you maybe add pops of silver or other colors to certain things instead, to balance out the black?
Post # 3
I worked in a funeral home. I have never seen a funeral with back decore. I am sure it will be lovely.
Post # 4
We chose black tablecloths with black napkins. When the napkins are on the bone colored china it should look normal. It also matches the chairs that have black material with gold edges. Our centerpieces are all white. We figure it’ll be a nice contrast to the flowers and dinnerware. I think all black is classy. Just an opinion though! I definitely did have a mini-freak-out the day after we selected linens though thinking maybe I should switch at least the napkins when the person at the place was like no there’s china under there! Don’t worry!
Post # 5
freebird: If our venue were more of a blank slate, I would have loved a pretty purple color for our decor. I agree with you that color is always nicer at a wedding. But those damn green walls keep getting to me so I wanted to avoid anything that might look weird. I’m also really bad at visualizing how a room will look once the decor’s all laid out, so I stuck with something simple to avoid any problems. I think my Future Mother-In-Law is going to make silver napkin rings, so hopefully my mom won’t be horrified that we’re sticking with the black napkins. She was talking about doing a thin black overlay down the middle of the runners so maybe our new color scheme is silver and black. I wish I cared more about this stuff!
Post # 6
Ukulele4You: That was my thinking too. I’m like, “People don’t usually decorate for a funeral.” Maybe back in the 1800s it was normal to shroud things in black while in mourning, but my mom isn’t that old.
plannerbear520: That’s what I was picturing, that it would look nice with the white dishes and continue the black-and-white(ish) theme we had going with our centerpieces. I’m sure your set up will look great!
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
I think it sounds lovely. I’ve seen a lot of ‘black and white’ coloured Weddings on Pinterest and think they look really classy.
Do what you can to liven the place up and stay away from Lilies (which I always associate with funerals!) and you’ll be fine 🙂
Post # 8
CakeSniffer: Haha careful what you wish for! I think sometimes details like color scheme get a bit overblown sometimes. The silver will add a nice touch!
Post # 9
I think it would be fine, but I don’t think pale green walls should be the reason you feel like you HAVE to do black. So many colors look nice with pale green. A deep puple like you said before, ivory/champagne, grey, navy, chocolate brown, bascally anything. I don’t think black automatically = funeral, but I would think with a light and rustic sounding venue, black might seem harsh.
Post # 10
I’m having a new years eve wedding with a black and gold theme so we are having black tableclothes with candelabras. I see it as classy rather than morbid tbh
Post # 11
I only had one color that I liked for my wedding, which was royal blue. We tried it with both ivory (no white because my dress was ivory and my mom was afraid of it looking yellow) and black and found that the black just popped better. Ended up with black table clothes and napkins, bridesmaid dresses that were black with royal blue details, ect. It didn’t look like a funeral.
I think black just somtimes looks more classy than white.
Post # 12
Use what you want. My daughter’s wedding colors were black, gold, and white/ivory. She married in a historic building, with lots of black and white marble and gold gilding.
Saying that black decor = funeral is about as silly as the comments I’ve seen that the mothers of the couple can’t wear black, because it signifies funeral wear and that they don’t approve of the marriage.
Post # 13
I like black. Unless you’re planning to do all black everything, I think it’s totally fine.
Post # 14
My only concern with using so much black is that it might make the room look really dark. Based on your description, I’m guessing there’s a lot of dark wood, so between that, the green walls, and black runners and napkins, there’s not a whole lot of bright or light. I know you’re worried about the green walls, have you considered doing ivory linens?
Post # 15
There used to be (well I guess still is, but no one says it anymore) about “if you wear black, you wish yourself back” and “if you wear red, you’ll wish you were dead” and for a loooong time people wouldn’t use those as wedding colors and some (meaning my mom) still shakes her head at wedding colors that are black or red (funny enough there is something about almost every color except blue I think, I guess the “old, new, borrowed, blue” thing came from that). That could be something to do witht it. But at the same time, black and white weddings are very classy, and while you’re talking about tablecloths and not dresses, having bridesmaids in black dresses is always something they can reuse. Not to mention, it makes things super easy to match. So as long as you don’t go out of your way to use black roses , I don’t see a problem