Post # 1
So my mom keeps arguing with me on the color of her dress. Now mind you, she is walking me down the aisle and my dress is ivory…my bridesmaids are plum. She is insistingggggggg on wearing a black dress. I keep telling her no mom its not a funeral. Shes fuller figured and I just think she wants to look her best. Dont get me wrong the black dress is super cute but i just think it would look weird with me walking down the aisle :-/ Do you think it would be okay to do the same color as the bridesmaids or is that a bad idea?
am I being crazy, I mean you wouldnt want your mom wearing black to your wedding would you!?!?
Post # 3
My MIL wore a black dress and my Mum wore a champagne color which was close to my ivory dress, but darker. Thought nothing of it. Let her pick her own dress. Believe me, it won’t matter.
Post # 4
@SLuce021: My bridesmaids are wearing black. My flower girls are wearing black. The dudes are wearing black tuxes with black shirts. There is black ribbon on my dress. My linens are black, my invitations are black. Basically, there is A LOT of black at our wedding.
My mom and dad are both walking me down the aisle, and my mom is welcome to wear whatever she wants. Will I shop with her? Yes. I prefer that she wears black or dark red (my wedding colors), but if she falls in love with a green dress, then she’ll wear a green dress. Bottom line, she’s my mom. She brought me into this world and she can take me out. The woman gets to wear whatever she wants.
Post # 5
My mom is wearing a very elegant black dress to my wedding also. I think it’s important that Mom gets to feel her most confident and beautiful, and for my mother in particular, she feels that way when she’s Audrey-chic in all-black. I think that the “Black is only for funerals” line of thinking is kind of in the past, but if it really leaves a bad taste in your mouth, it’s better that you express that to her than let it fester.
Post # 6
I agree with PP, my mom is wearing a maily black/some white dress….I didn’t give it a second thought! She liked it and that’s all that really matters. I plan on lending her some blue beaded jewelry to compliment my BM’s dresses.
Post # 7
I think you’re being irrational. Let your mom wear something she feels her best in. I’ve seen a lot of MOBs wear navy blue or black.
Post # 8
My mom is wearing a black dress and I love it. My wedding colors are all neutral (gray, tan, ivory) and she will still look great standing next to all of them.
Post # 9
My MIL is wearing a black dress. It’s a colour that she is comfortable in (also full figured) and even though my colors are bright and summery, it doesn’t really matter to me. Not my first choice but if that’s what she likes I’m fine with it. I think at the end of the day people are not going to remember that the mother were wearing. I bet they will remember the beautiful bride though!! Either plum or black will look great with your dress!
Post # 10
i think you are being somewhat old fashioned……while that might have been a faux pas years ago, let your mother wear what she feels fabulous in and if it is black then so be it. Black and Ivory will look beautiful together.
Post # 11
i forgot to add…. please please please please please don’t make your mother wear the same color dresses as your BMs. She will look and feel like a really old bridesmaid and not the mother of the bride. That is very dated…. very 80s/90s
Post # 12
It’s fine! My BM dresses are black, my dad is wearing a black suite and walking me down the aisle. It won’t look bad! Black is classy!
Post # 13
My mom wore a black dress we picked out together and I thought it looked lovely. I’d rather her have her wear black than match the bridal party!
Post # 14
@SLuce021: The only thing I told my mom and fmil is that I didnt want them in black. I too look at it as a “its not a funeral” type thing. But thats only if its ALL black. My mom ended up getting a blueish purple dress and fmil got a green dress. I think its a personal opinion type thing. Is the dress shes looking at totally black or is there some color in it?
Post # 15
Thanks guys I did feel like I was being pretty irrational. I will let her know. I guess I was just scared to what it was going to look like all together because their is no black in my wedding at all. The boys are wearing grey and my flower colors are mauve blush and ivory.
Post # 16
@SLuce021: Black is always elegant and suitable.