(Closed) Black Tie Invitation Wording

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Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

“Black tie” does not traditionally appear on the invitation. If the event takes place after six o’clock, your guests should assume that it is a formal event. If you are concerned, however, you may write “Black tie” as a right footnote on your reception card. Note: the “B” in “Black tie” is capitalized, but not the ‘t’.”

 

http://www.einvite.com/info/etiquette?segment=wording-your-invitation

 

Here you go!

 

Before you consider putting “black tie” on anything, make sure your wedding is, in fact, black tie.  That means every man in a tuxedo and every woman in a floor length gown.  It also has to do with the actual features of your wedding.  You would have engraved invitations, more than 100 people in attendance, a live band, top-shelf liquor, a multiple-course plated dinner, white glove service, passed hors d’oeuvres, etc.

 

In other words, “black-tie” describes the entire event, and suggests that people dress appropriately.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Black tie isn’t just having people dress up, it’s your entire event.

If you aren’t having a black tie event, you shouldn’t be dictating dress code, unless the venue is actually going to kick them out/not allow them in.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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legallyblondebride88 :  If you have a wedding website I would toy with the idea of defining black tie attire…unless you think it won’t be an issue. Where I am from, people wouldn’t bat an eye at someone wearing a sundress to a wedding. That is totally normal here. I wouldn’t want someone to see black tie and not really know what that means as far as attire and show up in a short dress for example. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I cringed at putting Black Tie Optional on our invite- (our event was black tie) but some of DH’s friends were very confused as to what a formal wedding was, they assumed jeans and a jacket. (That’s TX for ya! Our event was in NYC) Plus, we had a venue that is very strict on attire, even to just sit in the lobby- no jeans, men must have a jacket and tie on at all times. We put it in the bottom right corner of the invite, so that there was less confusion (there was still some! I’m looking at you SIL 😡)

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I have to agree with the previous posters on this as I just went to a “Black tie ” wedding a few weeks ago.

It was in AC NJ and the venue ended up being on the top floor of a shopping mall – that’s right, a shopping mall!!

There was one tiny bar in the corner with one attendant for over 300 guests . 

The food service was terrible as we had to hunt down our waiter to clear our plates, give us coffee and provide us dessert (which we came to find out they only had enough for 100 people ).

Plus, only a handful of the guests were dressed appropriately – there were even some in leggings and/or jeans.

There were other flaws with it as well, but if you are saying Black tie, your guests will expect Black tie.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m all for a black tie wedding, so long as it is actually black tie. Like others have mentioned, it’s not about a dress code but the overall formailty of your event.

My SIL attended a BT wedding a few years ago, only to show up and nothing about it was actually black tie when it came to the level of formality of the actual event.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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legallyblondebride88 :  Does your venue dictate dress at all? Because I wouldn’t put black tie encouraged if it’s really required.

It doesn’t sound like you want it encouraged, it sounds like its a requirement.

In which case, I would just write “Black tie” as a right footnote on your reception card

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would just put Black tie and expect that some people are going to wear whatever they want regardless of your dress code. Unless you’re planning on turning people away at the door, it’s gonna happen.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

My wedding is also very formal and we said black tie optional on our invites. Of course I didn’t use lower case for the “t” in tie. Sigh. Another missed item! lol

We decided to say optional because we didn’t wasnt to discourage any guest who didn’t have the appropriate attire from attending. I’m sure people will still show up dresses innapropriately. lol

Post # 15
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Busy bee

My wedding is also very formal and we said black tie optional on our invites. Of course I didn’t use lower case for the “t” in tie. Sigh. Another missed item! lol

We decided to say optional because we didn’t wasnt to discourage any guest who didn’t have the appropriate attire from attending. I’m sure people will still show up dresses innapropriately. lol

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