(Closed) Black Tie Optional Wedding Invitations

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

there is no right or wrong way.  it’s whatever you want and whatever looks better to you.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Agreed, whatever you prefer! If it were me, I would do “Saturday, the fifth of November” just because it looks fancier. And I would put “black tie optional” on the bottom right. I don’t think you need to bold it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

@Cruise Girl: In a formal invitation, words are written out in full and digits are not used, so “Saturday the fifth of November” is correct. Similarly, you would write out the time as “at eleven o’clock”. You do not need to put in the year because it is assumed to be the coming fifth of November; and you do not need to put in “in the morning” or “in the afternoon” unless you are doing something very odd like getting married at eleven o’clock at night, or three o’clock in the morning.

Dress code can nowadays go on the bottom right, opposite the R.s.v.p. on the bottom left. That is what has been done for the last few royal weddings. Earlier royal weddings have had the dress code bottom left and the R.s.v.p. bottom right, so that can be considered acceptable too. The stuffiest standard of course, is to eschew both an R.s.v.p. line, and a dress code, on the theory that well-bred people know how to dress and know to reply to an invitation. But when even the Queen of England has had to bow to unpleasant realities, it’s reasonable for ordinary people to do the same — but I am still holding out against the tide! Don’t bold them, though, since their mere inclusion is a compromise, and you don’t want to emphasise it.

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