Post # 1
I can’t find this anywhere here. How did you word “Black Tie Optional” on your wedding website in a way that didn’t come off as zilla-esque? We won’t have a heart attack if people don’t show up in fancy clothes, but that’s the mood we’re going for. So we’d like to convey that – seriously, black tie is recommended but optional.
Post # 3
I’ve received several invitations that say “Black Tie Optional” on the invitation. Its not Bridezilla-esq, its just stating the dress of your wedding. If you said “Black Tie Only” that would be Bridezilla.
The only other thing I have to add may seem obvious, but if you are going to put “Black Tie Optional” on your invitations, then make sure the wedding is really “Black Tie Optional” – meaning the bridesmaids are in long dresses and the guys are in tuxes. If the girls are in short dresses or the guys are in suits, then its really more of a cocktail attire wedding. I only say this because I received a black tie optional wedding invitation and wore a nice gown (long dress). As it turns out, the bridesmaids were in cocktail dresses as was 99% of the guests. There were three girls in gowns (not including the mothers and grandmothers) and we all felt really overdressed and mislead by the “Black Tie Optional” wording.