Post # 1
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Bumble bee
We recently went by both Jos A. Bank and Mens’ Wearhouse to check out tux options. We’re looking at renting black tuxes– either the black version of Black by Vera Wang at MW, or a couple of two-button options at JAB.
But… the salespeople at BOTH stores were 100% behind doing black tuxes with colored vests/bow ties (to match the bridesmaid dresses). I feel like this looks so prom-y or 80s or something. Is it me?? My Fiance is now convince that colored vests are the way to go, too. I just feel like black vests/colored bow ties would be classier… or even just black bow ties too. (FI is leaning towards a white vest/bow tie for himself.)
Thoughts?? Help!
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Don’t do it! (Unless you really want to, which it sounds like you don’t).
Post # 4
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Helper bee
Our groomsmen are wearing black tuxes with a white shirt, black vest, and yellow tie. The yellow vest was just tooooo much. FI is wearing the same thing but with a white tie and vest and dad’s are wearing black ties and vests.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
@aussiebride26:
@hlayers:
It’s not weird that I prefer the non-colored vests? Now Fiance and the salespeople are making me feel like colored is the way to go… Fiance is talking about things looking really dark. I mean, they will, but our wedding is relatively formal (tuxes were totally his call).
I feel like I’m taking crazy pills! Lol.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I personally think they are tacky. With a black tux I would say only black or white vests. It’s a wedding, not a clown convention 😛
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Don’t do it! Colored vests are for teenagers at prom.
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
Darling Husband wore a green vest and green tie with his tux. I thought he looked dashing 🙂 Ultimatly, I left it up to him. He didn’t get a say in what dress I picked out, so I felt I shouldn’t get a say in his tux.
Post # 9
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Blushing bee
I think it looks better with darker or deeper colors, also. Like:
Post # 10
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Helper bee
@PiggehBank: That looks really nice, you may have just changed my mind 🙂
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
@aussiebride26: This is my feeling too. Just need to convince Fiance…
@antonina: That’s been my hesitation!
@PiggehBank: True on him not having a say in the dress. I’m not sure I’m that selfless… I guess I feel more ownership of the whole wedding look since I’m doing 90% of the planning. 
Thanks for the pic– that’s actually the least prom-y picture I’ve seen with colored vests! Pretty sure we looked at that exact purple.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
@Almost Mrs.P: I’m not a fan of the vests at all. I agree that they look very dated and prom-like. We decided to skip vests altogether. We’re just doing black tuxes, with black bow ties and black suspenders instead.
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Post # 13
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Blushing bee
@Almost Mrs.P: haha, I was very lax about the entire thing, to be honest. So I’m probably not the best example – when it came to making decisions on detail oriented things my answer was “Yeah, whatever you want to do. Doesn’t matter to me.”
For the groomsman I told them to just show up in a black suit with a green tie – one groomsman forgot to buy a tie THE DAY OF and showed up in a green gumby tie. 😛 And I thought it was hilarious, where most brides would be O___O
I think if you have a certain vision for how you want things to be, you should have input, most definitly. So if the overall look to your wedding is really important to YOU, then I don’t think he should have 100% control over it – hopefully you can come to a compromise 😛
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
@PrincessBride27: Hmm, that’s an interesting idea. I do like that look too… perhaps suspenders are the answer!
@PiggehBank: Haha, yeah, I am not quite that laid back (though hopefully the day of I will be happy and zen-like). I think compromise is definitely the way to go, though– I don’t want either of us to hate any detail of the wedding.
Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
@Almost Mrs.P: I’m totally with you on feeling that colored vests to match the girls’ is way too promy! We had navy Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and I’m a strict no black on navy type of girl. The woman at the store told me everyone she’s seen that did navy Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, had navy vests with black tuxes and that EVERYONE does colored vests. We just went with black tuxes/black vests and it looked great, even against the navy dresses. The only time I like a colored vest if it’s a champagne/tan/neutral color. I would have gone with that for the guys but Darling Husband didn’t like it.
Post # 16
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Busy bee
Personally, I hate colored vests at weddings. The two that Fiance has been in have used them and, frankly, he really did look like he was dressed for prom. What’s more, HE hated how he looked. The black vest looks classy, as does the white that your Fiance is thinking of. Colors, on the other hand, look immature. Frankly, the mint green vest Fiance once wore in a wedding make him look more prom date-y than my REAL prom date who wore a silver/grey vest.
Fiance is adamant that he buy his tux, have it tailored right, and refuses to wear a vest of any kind. Just a nice tuxedo shirt, suspenders, and a black bow tie. Cumberbunds are also off the table. Our groomsmen will be given the rental option, of course, with the same criteria.
