(Closed) Black Wedding Dress Dilema

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think it’s your wedding, so if you want a black dress, there’s no problem with it :-). It could be really classy even.

What does your fiance think?

Post # 5
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I think you should wear what you want, but realllllly think if you are going to be happyy in the end and what’s going to happen when you look back at the pictures in 10 years. 🙂 I’m wearing light gray and I love it.

Post # 6
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My colors are black and white also. Would you be happy with a black and white dress? i searched high and low for a B&W dress and found some beautiful ones. However a totally black one is harder to pull off on your wedding day. As stated above it is your day and you do what ever feels right. Im sure the girls here would be more then happy to help you if you asked them to help you look for dress suggestions. Good Luck on your dress quest

Post # 7
2765 posts
Sugar bee

If you’re worried about being too untraditional, maybe you could wear a black dress to the reception instead?  That way you could still be true to your own personality…

Good luck!

Post # 8
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ooo… I agree w/ Mr. Bee’s idea! I would never ever consider not wearing some shade of white for the ceremony… Why not some glam white-ish gown w/ like a black sash or bow or something? If I were you, I’d look at couture designers for some inspiration b/c they’re bold w/ dark colors dressing up their gowns in suddle ways. But then change into a black dress for the reception!

Post # 9
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I think that if you really know what you want, go for it!

That said, depending on whether there are traditional people in your family/friends you may be up against some controversy, stares, whispers, etc… but maybe not! I’m sure you will look great whatever you choose. If you’re worried you might regret it later, there’s something to think of… I know Sarah Jessica Parker wore a black dress for her wedding and openly regrets it.

Is your main objection the color white, or is it the "wedding dress" per se? There are so many ways to wear a great outfit that isn’t too "girly," like a little white (or off-white or ivory or champagne) suit, a pants suit, a short & chic dress, there are HUNDREDS of options! Also, you could wear a white something for the ceremony & change into your black dress after that.

Post # 10
2143 posts
Buzzing bee

I’ve seen a wedding on TV (don’t remember the show) where the bride wore a black dress. The dress itself was BEAUTIFUL, but just not very wedding-y despite its corset back and foofiness. The color just changes the whole thing. had it been white, it would have DEFINITELY looked like a wedding dress lol They do have colored wedding dresses, but they tend to be red, or pale blue or pale pink. I’m sure if black is what you wanted you could have it custom made or dyed. If you don’t mind people talking about how "unappropriate" it is, or giving you odd looks, then go for the black dress, but people WILL talk about it being very odd, and your mother may put up a fight. They do make a lot of black and white wedding dresses though, and you could carry a bouqet of fushia flowers (but I’m personally in love with the black white and red and I think red roses would look AMAZING, but that’s just MY opinion lol). But, I will say, that even if you aren’t a girly girl, there are some amazing dresses out there and it wouldnt hurt to look. Sometimes it’s hard to think about wearing a dress until you see how amazing they can make you look. It’s just a day anyway. You could always wear sneakers under the dress or something so that you can show that you haven’t lost your identity :p You really can do just about anything you want with your wedding these days, just have to be ready for the backlash from others lol

Post # 11
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

How about this gorgeous black and white dress from Maggie Sottero?

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Post # 15
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Btw..that Beth dress has a damask like design to the back of it…check it out! 

Would look perfect with that ring bearer pillow and some of the style you like..you can also get a black bolero from a great designer on etsy..check out Bonzi’s stuff!

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=22107699f  this is just $69!



Post # 16
1045 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

I think if you really want to wear a beautiful black dress, you should wear one! I think it would be gorgeous. Check out the Offbeat Bride site for some inspiration photos.

There ARE pretty dresses out there with sleeves, though, so if that’s holding you back from searching, don’t let it stop you. My dress (San Patrick Bambu) has delicate elbow-length sleeves that I love, and I know there are a wide range of straps and sleeves out there for those of us who don’t love strapless.

Good luck! Post back when you find one you love!


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