Post # 1
We are so helpless!!! We are nearly 6 weeks out before out wedding and don’t have a theme or a plan. Everyone! Could you please give us a little advice.
We want a theme that reflects our two cultures. Trying to think of some kind of fusion we can do to make it fun.
* Our food is decided and its going to be a Chinese menu. “I know! It makes no sense why we have a Chinese menu in Japan but thats just how things go sometimes. I mean they don’t really wanna eat Japanese food since they can get it often. The top popular wedding food choices are Western style or Chinese.”
* I will be wearing a white wedding dress and he will wear the traditional Japanese clothing.
* We will marry outdoors in a poolside garden space. Its beautiful and we enjoyed it very much. We were so lucky to find something after months of searching and hearing NO!! To our 1st few choices.
So with all this being said we are without an idea for the reception. We want it to be fun for everyone.
* Decor is set, per hotels only choice… a flower arrangement with a candle in it.
* The colors for the table cloth haven’t been selected. They are basically rented from the hotel from a book. Thought MAYBE BURGUNDY?????????
* We might want to do a part-time show with a little fusion involved somehow but we are clueless.
PLEASE HELP SAVE OUR WEDDING FROM BOREDOM!!!!
Post # 3
In my opinion a wedding doesn’t need a theme or a show to be fun.
Your theme is fusion of your cultures so what are you bringing from your culture?
Good food, great music and some alcohol are all people need for a good time. Maybe you could incorporate dessert or music from your culture?
As far as colours go – Do you have attendings? What colour are your BMs wearing? What colour are your flowers? These answers will help you choose your linen colours.
Don’t worry about it too much!
Post # 4
We don’t have any bridesmaids or groomsmen. We are leaving it just the two of us. We don’t have our closests friends here so it wouldn’t be right.
Post # 5
Oooh, where in Japan do you live? I lived in Ehime-ken for two years.
One of my good American friends married a Japanese woman over there. One of the ways they combined cultures was through the music. They had a Christian ceremony with a few Japanese hymns as well as traditional English ones. They just handed out the katakana pronunciations so the bride’s side of the family could follow along.
You could also do something cool with the favors. Depending on where you’re from, you could give out something famous from your area. When I needed omiyage after visiting home, I gave out Texas pecans. You could also try to blend it with your fiance’s local specialty. If it were me getting married, I might ask him to think of his favorite Japanese recipe that uses hot peppers (not many, I know, but there are a few spicy dishes from the Fukuoka area!), and then give out dried jalapeno peppers for people to use.
You could also get engagement photos taken wearing both clothing styles. You could get one set done with both of you wearing formal kimonos, then do another with normal clothing.
During the ceremony, you could try and take a small tradition from each culture that has meaning for you. For example, you could each drink the sake nine times like at a Japanese wedding, then, if you were Jewish, you could drop the sake cups and crush them under your feet. I don’t know what traditions are important in your family, but maybe you have something like that that you could do.
I hope that gives you some ideas!