Post # 1
me and FI’s family(dad’s side) use to get along. I would tolerate them, but truly I couldn’t stand them. They used him, & did pretty hurtful things to him such as making him come to a christmas party to open gifts with his siblings & cousins and not getting a SINGLE thing. On xmas I dropped him off at his dad’s house alone, because I was pretty pissed & the xmas before i was extremely uncomfortable. Later that night I went to pick my Fiance up, only for his aunt to tell me he was drunk. I thought nothing of it, until i saw him getting carried to our car cause he was too drunk to walk. I expressed my feelings about how I was pissed, & he had to work in the morning & how he has epilepsy and shouldnt be heavy drinking. His family then turned on me & surrounded
my car tryig to threaten me. When we got
home his dad messaged him on facebook. Threatening me once again & calling me out of my name. The next morning I told Fiance what happened. He apologized for his behavior and said he wanted nothing to do with them. His dad
called the next day, he asked him to apologize to me of course he said no, so Fiance said he didnt want a relationship with him. Since then various family members have called or texted my Fiance threatening him. His grandmother left several nasty messages on his voicemail, never once saying anything about her sons behavior. Yesterday she passed away, and I couldn’t careless. I know it seems heartless, but theyve put my life through hell for two months! they’re mean and nasty people & i dont think it’s ok for people to do that.. am i a bad person for not caring about her death or his family at all?
Post # 2
First, how much your Fiance drank on Xmas eve is 100% on him. He is an adult and he knows his health condition and that he shouldn’t be drinking heavily, but did so anyways.
As for them making threats, I would just go on with life like they do not exist. This is your Fiance family, not yours, so you do not have to have any interraction with them if you don’t want to. As long as your Fiance has your back and sticks up for you whenever his family talks shit, then that is all that matters. Just be there for your Fiance. If you Fiance is upset about his grandmother’s passing be there and supportive for HIM only. You don’t have to be sad or even moved at all about her passing. But you do have to be supportive of your Fiance if he is upset or sad by it at all.
Post # 3
How old are you?
This situation really sounds like something for your fiance to deal with, not you
Post # 4
yes I understand that. I just found it weird they’d let a 20 year old get shitfaced.
Post # 6
Again, your Fiance is an adult. His family probably figured that he wasn’t driving, and that he was at their home with people he knew and that he is an adult and if he wants to get shit faced then what exactly are they supposed to do? Ground him? So if you want to be pissed at someone for getting shitfaced, get pissed at your Fiance.
Post # 7
your Fiance should be a responsible adult to know with his health problem, he shouldnt drink heavily. blame him for the drinking. he has the power to say no and not be forced to drink anymore than he wants.
also, his family, his shit. support him but you don’t have to interact with his family. however, know that his family will always be his family. so know this if you want to marry him.
Post # 9
I did blame him for the drinking. I don’t know, where i’m from people don’t drink with their kids until their of age so it’s a weird situation..