(Closed) Blah Day, Tired of Planning

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wish I had suggestions for you but I am right there with you! I’m way stressed right now. I’m working on invitation wording and all the inserts and I’m just sort of wanting to quit completely. My mom has sent me THREE emails today about postage. I’m in that phase where I’m just like wtf this s**t is so stupid, why am I receiving three emails in one day about postage? Can’t. Deal.

You are not alone.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think there is a theme here with our dates. We are all so overwhelmed that the wedding is getting close and we feel like there are a 100 little things that need to be done. I am starting my meetings to review day of stuff with the vendors and I haven’t even done anything with the church for my ceremony. I have a bunch of things that I have been putting off and now I have to do them all while I am in the process of remoldeling my home. I’m exhausted and the last thing I want to do right now is wedding planning.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You are definitely not alone!  I was thinking about writing a similar post to discuss wedding burnout.  I am definitely ready to be past the wedding.  It would just be nice to have time/energy to think about something other than the wedding, ya know? 

My strategy is going to be taking an entire weekend off from wedding planning.  I’ve heard from others that taking a break (totally from planning) can help revive you, and I feel like I desperately need a vacation, so my Fiance and I are going away for an inexpensive minivacation (camping!) this weekend.  Maybe you could use a break too?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My grandma had this saying that I repeat to myself sometimes when I’m getting stressed about wedding planning: “A man riding by on a horse wouldn’t notice.”

Really, ask yourself about the weddings of friends and family members: What kind of flowers did they have? What was for dinner? What flavor was the cake? Did they have programs and favors? What were they?

I’ve been to weddings that I thought were beautiful, but five minutes later I barely remember the details. Do what’s important to you and let the rest go. As grandma would say, a man riding by on a horse wouldn’t notice.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@serasvictoria – you DEFINITELY need to have some wine and watch a movie! I’m not even DIYing things and I’m stressing out – I cant’ even imagine what you’re dealing with. I say take a night for you. And don’t watch a wedding movie!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@jadeblue – the tragic part is that I actually do remember stuff like that from other people’s weddings. I wish I didn’t cause I can’t rationalize not caring in my mind because I know while other people don’t remember, I most definitely do. I’m very detail oriented so I notice little tiny things that my Fiance would forget three seconds after he saw it. I’m constantly being like “Hey remember that thing we saw at X?” and he’s like How the hell do you even remember that? It’s a curse.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I second Kittyachi!  Definitely take some time for yourself, don’t think about the wedding, and watch a non-wedding related movie!  Even if you can’t get away for a whole weekend like what my Fiance and I planning, skipping a couple days of wedding planning (ahem, I mean thinking about anything wedding-related at all!) should help you destress a little.  My Fiance and I have instituted occasional “no wedding talk” dates where we go out for drinks and dinner, avoid talking about the wedding at all, and just enjoy each other.  It is really very, very pleasant!  I recommend it. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve been there!  We’ve been engaged for year and a half and in that time the feeling ebbs and flows kinda.  Some days (or weeks) I’m so over doing everything, other times I’m really focused and enjoy doing things.  Its strange, but what you’re feeling is sooooo normal!  My only suggestion is to just start knocking things off of the to-do list.  It actually helps me, because then I realize how much less daunting it actually is to get this stuff done.  But also, take time for yourself.  I made a conscious effort not to obsess over small details nor do I want to be that bride that can’t talk about anything but her wedding.  Seems to be working so far!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

You are not alone.  I’m tired of planning too, except my to do list is a mile long and I’m trying to get things knocked off the list so I feel better.  Except I just want to be married and I want the details to magically take care of themselves. 

In fact, an hour ago I sent Fiance a crazy long email with the jillion to dos that were supposed to be done by now.  We’re still fine on time, but I wanted to get a lot of this done ages ago – to prevent me from stressing.  And I needed to put it all down on paper so he realizes the urgency and gets some of it done too. 

Post # 15
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I feel you.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Family Ranch outside Glenrock, WY

I feel ya, girl!  I get that way some days.  I can’t wait to just be married!!

On a side note, I have family and tons of friends in Billings!  ๐Ÿ™‚

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