(Closed) Blah… feeling like we should just elope

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

I feel the same way sometimes. Fiance is insistant that we not elope because “you only get to do this once.”

By open bar suggestion, do it based on consumption not per person. We found that to be a lot cheaper.

Post # 4
3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh man, that’s pretty much how we decided to just go to the courthouse and make a big weekend of it without dropping a ton of money. It started with me feeling overwhelmed and then suggesting to Darling Husband that we just have a very small, intimate ceremony and whatnot, which turned out to be the best decision we could have made.

I’m sorry you’re feeling bummed out! Rest assured that no matter what you do for your wedding, it will still be special. 🙂

Post # 5
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Awww, I know how you feel too !

Have you considered or is it at all possible to cut the guest list?

Post # 6
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I went through this same thing. At times just feeling unmotivated and let down. I was so stressed about funds that I times I just wanted to give up, even though I am usually very creative and can problem solve very easily. It will pass as you get things done and it gets closer I promise.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago and I can honestly say that I wouldn’t have changed it and I’m so glad that Darling Husband did not let my whining convince him that we should elope. You just need to put on your thinking cap so that you can have that steak wedding WITH your hot dog budget. You can do it!

Post # 7
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Completely understand!  I just keep telling myself that it will all be worth it on our wedding day, but really?  All this for one day?  When we could just go to the court house today and be married tomorrow?

I totally understand eloping.

Post # 9
1890 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve been having a lot of the same feelings–especially when expensive, gorgeous wedding stuff is everywhere and so easily accessible (uhh really, “Four Weddings”?  The cheapest wedding of all 4 cost $35k and all the other brides wouldn’t stop talking about how cheap/tacky everything was?).  I’m just trying to not sweat the small stuff–maybe we won’t have a limo, or perfect invitations with little ribbon bows on them, or fancy favors that the guests are going to forget about anyways.  I know the most important thing is that we’re getting married, and all our friends and family will be there to celebrate with us.

Also, my friends just got married and instead of an open bar, they just had beer and wine, but they had vodka (the new hubby is Russian) and whiskey on each table, along with little shot glasses.  This little change saved them a lot of money, and 2 bottles of liquor per 10 people, plus unlimited beer/wine, meant there was plenty of alcohol for everyone.

Post # 11
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I know exactly where you’re coming from. I was at that crossroads a few weeks ago, and I’m sure I’ll go through it again! Thank goodness for my Fiance, because he reminded me how special all of this is to me. I talked to my mom (who is paying for half) and I was able to cut half of the guest list, and am doing a Cocktail/Dessert Reception instead of a full sit down dinner. It will be a ton of fun, and will be a great party! 

If, in the end, eloping is what makes you happy, then I say go for it! Just know you have so many options. 

Good luck 🙁

Post # 12
3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

blarg… i’m sorry. wedding planning has his ups and downs and it seems like you’re in a slump. you could always consider a destination wedding?

Post # 13
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@napabridekelsey: would love to share ideas about dessert reception- please PM me

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