(Closed) Blame and Sadness 3 Weeks out

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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558 posts
Busy bee

You need a nap.

And take a deep breath! Family stuff happens all the time, and you can’t blame yourself for staying with your ex too long, that’s the craziest thing I’ve ever heard! I know it sucks and it’s scary, but just take one day at a time. If something horrible happens along the way, just know that your wedding could be the happiness the family is looking forward to! It’s hard, but keep your head up.

Post # 3
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee

I felt the same way…if I hadn’t wasted such precious time on my THREE long-term idiot exes, I would have maybe been able to have my grandparents with me on my wedding day. My mom wouldn’t be sick with the cancer she has been battling before and now after the wedding. My husband’s father got diagnosed with cancer just before the wedding.

All the what ifs will kill you. You have to focus on what is. This is life. These things happen. Who knows what would have been happening at the time of some phantom parallel “what if” wedding. Probably more drama! Stay in the now and remind yourself daily that you even have this wonderful opportunity.

My grandparents couldn’t be at my wedding but I’m so glad I was close with them when they were here. My mom may have cancer but she felt great at my wedding and before. My husband’s father is still here and has been a great father to him. All things to be grateful for. 🙂 Glass half full!!

Post # 4
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2870 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Breathe girl, breathe. You need to take a night, day, hour and just breathe.

Things happen, and it sucks, like REALLY sucks when we lose people we are close to. 

I’m in the same boat, just smaller then you. Lost my very close aunt in July, and my grandma just recently had a heart attack and is on borrowed time. 

We cannot change what happens after its done. Just take the time to really enjoy these moments with them. Can you escape to see your grandma and other loved ones over the weekend? It could help.

Post # 5
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229 posts
Helper bee

Please don’t blame yourself… just because it wasn’t meant to be with your ex, doesn’t mean that it was a waste of time.  Think about how much you learned about yourself and what you want out of life.  Just because the relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean it was a waste of time!  Life is for making mistakes and (hopefully!) learning from them.  You’ve done good.

I’m so sorry for everything that’s going on in your family.  My grandparents are also not doing well right now, health-wise.  It sucks, it really does, but the thing is, there’s always going to be drama and sad situations… which is why it’s so important to celebrate the happy ones when they happen.  Hugs.  You can do this!

Post # 6
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3287 posts
Sugar bee

You need to think of it this way. Your wedding day is a chance for everyone you love to focus on how much they love you and how happy they are for you. It is a chance for them to forget their own problems, even if they are physically unable to be at the wedding. 

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