Post # 1
We are having a destination wedding in playa del carmen, mexico and we are already way over budget so we decided to cut the cocktail hour out(we have an hour break in between the reception and ceremony. Is it okay to just have guests mingle at the hotel bar and pay their own drinks until the reception starts? (we are paying for 4 hours of open bar once reception starts, enough alcohol there!) Our per head for dinner and drinks is over 200 PP! We really can’t justify spending more money for cocktails before 4 hours of cocktails. Help!
Post # 2
Can you move your ceremony ahead so the reception follows the ceremony more closely? Or, do you need that time for pictures?
I take it this is not an all inclusive hotel?
Post # 3
We need time for pictures and no it is not all inclusive.
Post # 4
I do not think it is acceptable.
You are holding them captive at your venue (not literally), so you can take pictures. It is impolite to pass off any costs to the guests. You chose the place, and chose a gap, so you need to host them.
This is even more crutial since they are spending 1,000’s of dollars to come. it seems cheap to me to say you pay thousands but I won’t spring for a few drinks, so you have something to do while I take pictures.
The other option is to take pictures first.
Post # 5
Your guests are paying for their flights and hotels. They will not have cars nor time to go elsewhere. Asking them to pay for their own drinks while you are off taking photos is in exceptionally poor taste. Pay for the cocktail hour and ask your guests to enjoy some drinks and finger foods on you.
Post # 6
Can you tKe pictures before the ceremony? At the very least you, your party and your family, same with him and his family? Then all that’s left is the two of you. That’s less time between. A first look would solve the issue
Post # 7
If you can’t afford to open the bar for that hour, ask the hotel to make up a punch and serve it with some crudites.
Post # 8
I don’t think it is acceptable to cut the cocktail hour for a destination wedding. Either keep your cocktail hour or take your pictures before the ceremony.
I’m also having a destination wedding, and I’d literally get rid of anything else before I cut food/drink — see if you can make cost-cutting changes to decor, photography package, attire? I don’t think any of those things are as important as hosting your guests properly.
Post # 9
Can you do the pictures before the ceremony? Honestly as a guest I wouldn’t complain about hanging out on a beach for an hour but as a bride I wouldn’t want to put my guests in that position. You need to either move some things around or pay for the cocktail hour.
Post # 10
This is the standard where we are from! Usually ceremony is around 4pm and then we go to the bar and mingle till around 6!