(Closed) Blending families? What will the kids call you?

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Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have two children, three and five.  Fiance has been living with us for a few months. They just call him Kev or Kevy.  My son did ask me if he could call him dad once he becomes his stepdad, but I put the kibosh on that.  They do have a dad, albeit not a very involved one, but I know it’d be a really hurtful thing if they called their stepmom “mom.”  So I think we are keeping things as are.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

All three of my future step kids call me ‘Mommy Chris’. I’ve been in their lives since the youngest was one, and I am their mother when they are with me (half the time). It just sort of happened organically. I never said call me x, y, or z. I know their bio mom is not thrilled about it, but she forces the kids to call their step dad daddy, which they already resent. Our oldest (7 this month) flat out refuses. She says she has two moms, but only one dad. It’s a tough situation all around. I probably will never have my own biological children, and I love these three will all my heart. They are my world and I work so hard to give them everything they need and deserve. When they aren’t with me all I do is worry about them. As far as I’m concerned they are my children.

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m Ashley to FH’s 9 y/o. And FH is Jeffy (my 6 year old started calling him that to aggrevate him and it stuck lol) to mine- 6 and 3.  That’s probably how it will stay forever and I am OK with that.  I love all 3 kids as they were my own and we are planning a 4th next year or the year after.

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I come from a blended family, when my mom and dad got together and decided to get married the first thing they did was outlaw the word “step” in relation to family members to create a sense of family unity. This at first seemed odd to us, but now 15 years later we are thankful for that because it drew us closer. The only real designation that was made were referring to some of us as the J-birds (Dad’s 2 boys and 2 girls from his first marriage) and T-birds (Mom’s 2 boys and 2 girls from her first marriage).

 

My father either didn’t know until much later and/or didn’t care about what we called Dad; however Dad’s ex-wife didn’t want her kids calling my mom, Mom, but insisted they call her by her first name, Barbi. The J-bird boys lived full time with Mom and Dad and so either ignored or were unaware of this at the time (they were 3 and 14 at the time Mom and Dad married), the girls on the other hand called Mom by her given name.

Now that we are adults, the J-bird girls call my mom Noni since they now have children of their own and that is what my mom’s grandchildren call her. This practice started when my neice was 3 and kept calling her dad Mike because that is what my sister called her (now ex) husband, so for a while my sister started calling people by the names her daughter should use for us: Mom/Barbi became Noni, Dad became Papa, and becasue there were so many of us all the sisters are called Auntie and most of the boys are called Uncle (the youngest two at least to our oldest neice are know only by their first name since she is only a few years younger than they are) at least until the neice or nephew are old enough to be able to remember all our names and not be confused by having two Uncle Davids (side effect of blended families).  

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My soon to be 16 yr old step son calls me Miss Kelly – I have told him to drop the “Miss” but he can’t…habit…maybe in time…

 

 

Post # 37
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198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The girl doesn’t call me anything since we don’t speak. The boy has called me everything under the sun but to my face he calls me by my name. I call him OPK.

Post # 37
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Newbee

Well, we will be blending families, but the blending will be coming from me. I have 2 kids (6 year old daughter and 4 year old son). My Fiance doesn’t have any children and has never been married before. We also don’t live together (not by choice, but by geography). My kids call him Peter to his face, right now, but they frequently refer to him as dad/daddy and the two of us as their parents. Their biological father died 2 years ago, so to them my Fiance will be the only dad they will have. He’s planning to adopt them once we are married.

Post # 38
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229 posts
Helper bee

I see this is an old thread but id like to bring it back to life.

 

I have 2 kids and my SO has 2 kids. My 2 are 9 & 4. His 2 are 19 & 9. My daughter, 9, calls him by his first name and that’s fine with me. My son, 4, calls him by his first name also but I think in time he will start to call him dad.  My sons father never sees him, calls, does anything to be apart of his life. My son used to call him daddy, then it went to first name basis, now its uncle first name. I’ve never called him anything other than daddy around my son and neither has anyone else so its not coming from us. He does call his fathers long term gf, mom though when they are together. Shes been around since he was 1 so i totally let her take that role. They livein another stateand they had him half the time until his dad stopped seeing him at 2. He calls her by her first name when hes with me though. My SO oldest son, 19, calls me by my first name. When talking to people he refers to me as his dads girlfriend. I’m hoping he will change it to my dads wife or something along those lines when we do get married. He’s stubborn though. My SO youngest son, 9, calls me by my first nsme or Miss first name. He currently lives in the south with his mom so they have way better manners than we do. Lol  I’m hopinghe will call me mom or step mom but iwill never push it. My first namr id perfectly okay. I know his mom would have a cow if he called me mom.

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