- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
I feel the need to write this considering the multitude of posts I read regarding trusting your SO.
When some people say they trust their partner, what they are really doing is blind trusting them.
“I don’t have to ask him why he’s texting another girl at 2 am, I trust him.”. Do you really believe that? Or are you simply afraid of the answer?
“My fiance dosen’t call while away on business, but that’s ok, I trust him”. Again, you are blindly trusting him.
If you truly trust someone, there is no reason for secrets. If you truly trust someone, you don’t have to be afraid of asking them questions such as “You’ve been away 3 days now, why haven’t you called me???”. They are going to be your life long partner. Two people joined as one. (Not to mention they should be missing you and contacting you, regardless).
Suspicious texts, calls or facebook activity are all ways that the universe is telling you to “check him out”. It’s not an “invasion of privacy”. He is not your platonic room mate. He’s potentially the father of your future children. He’s someone who says loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
I also want you to imagine if the tables were turned. If you are texting someone at 2am, of the opposite sex, and your SO wants to know who it was or what was said, don’t you think he’d have a right to ask you that?
I guess what I’m saying is that blind trust isn’t the same as fully trusting someone.
Fully trusting someone means I can leave my gmail open and not care if my husband goes through it because there’s nothing suspicious in there. No secrets, nothing to hide.
Maybe I’m from a different planet, but if I am, I’m glad I am.
If my husband were the type to say “Oh, you know, sally from work needed a file number” at 2am as he was texting her, I would have no problem asking him to see the text and he would have no problem showing me. Unless, of course, he was lying.