(Closed) blindsided proposal

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

OoOoo!  Sounds exciting… even if he doesn’t propose.

My guy proposed on our 7-year anniversary so we had discussed marriage and our future quite a few times by that point.  He still managed to catch me off guard at the moment though.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We discussed it before he propsed.  I moved in with him about 6 months before we got engaged, and we discussed it then because I wanted to make sure we were on the same page before I took that step.  We also designed the ring together, so I was a big part in the ring processes.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Fiance and I talked about getting married A LOT before we got engaged.  We actually told each other within a month of dating that we wanted to marry each other (I actually never really wanted to get married before meeting him).  Fast forward 4.5 years later, we got engaged ๐Ÿ™‚  

Is there a reason you haven’t talked about marriage?  How exciting that you’re going to Europe!  I hope you have a wonderful trip!!  And I hope the proposal comes!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We did talk a lot before our engagement. But that wasn’t the way my Darling Husband would have done it. He would have preferred for the situation to be just like yours- pefect relationship and then one day he just proposes out of the blue.

I was pretty adamant that I wanted to be a part of the process and I wanted to discuss it all before out proposal. At first he really didn’t want to discuss it because he always believed that proposals were a complete surprise (is this from the movies? lol).

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We have discussed marriage since we got together at 18/20 respectively.

There were a million things we wanted to do with our young lives which we have now almost fully accomplished 11 years later. 

As we have gotten closer to the appropriate time, it did feel easy and relaxed.  Yes, we talked about it but there was no pressure, no hysterics etc.  It was just natural, like everything else has been.

Remember too, he’s never proposed before and he is a bit older so he may believe it is supposed to be a surprise! Don’t get ahead of yourself and ruin it! It will be an excellent trip proposal or not.  ENJOY!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My fiance is very much a man that has to have everything planned out extensively so we had our lives discussed to the tiniest details before we got engaged. Honestly it was a little sad to let go of the idea of a romantic surprise proposal… but as it turned out he suprised me anyway and it was great. Everything sounds like it’s heading in a great direction for you! Enjoy your trip regardless of whether now is the time or not!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had never talked directly about getting engaged before we did. I did tell him before I moved in that if I did I was never moving out. He would also say things like if we ever get married. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How exciting! We discussed marriage before we got engaged (we had been together almost 7 years by that point) but I didn’t help pick out my ring at all. I was basically like you–we were going on a big trip to England and Paris and I had no idea whether he’d even bought a ring yet or not, but of course I had to wonder. And then i put it out of my mind and convinced myself he couldn’t have bought a ring yet so I wouldn’t be disappointed. I wanted to enjoy this amazing trip no matter what! So when he did propose in England I was shocked and it was so amazing! I always wanted a proposal and ring to be a total surprise and I wouldn’t have it any other way! Good luck, be sure to let us know what happens ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My Fiance and I kind of did and did not talk about marriage. We discussed being together forever, and all of the things we wanted to do (i.e. buying a house, travelling, etc.), but we only talked about marriage in the context of our friends who got married. He did ask me about two weeks before proposing if I felt I wanted to get married ASAP because our friends were, but it was completely with the context of the weekend (we had been at a baby shower with two recently married couples and a newly engaged set of friends).

The proposal itself was a COMPLETE surprise. Like, I may have thought it was a joke and cussed at him for being ridiculous when he did it (that is getting more and more embarrasing to admit! LOL) because it completely came out of left field and totally blindsided me. That said, it was also completely amazing because it was so surprising. I was stressed for a few days after because in that moment, there wasn’t even a thought about the consequences of getting engaged (like actually having to start thinking about wedding planning – not my forte!), but it was really exciting for it to be such a shock.

Hope you have an amazing trip ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

How exciting! I hope he surprises you!

My engagement was a COMPLETE surprise. My Fiance and I had been together for eight months and broke up because things were moving fast and both of us freaked out. When we got back together, things were easy and fun. He asked me if I wanted to move in with him, but I told him I wouldn’t until I had a ring. I didn’t think about it at all after that because he never mentioned it again, and that was the extent of our discussion about marriage.

When he proposed, we were away on vacation and I had a terrible flight over (threw up in the bathroom with his in-laws waiting outside the door, proceeded to doze off and drool on his shoulder the whole way over, LOL) so a proposal was the last thing on my mind. In fact, Fiance kept instigating that I was pregnant or something to distract me from his plans. 

He took me to the beach where we could relax in the moonlight and before you know it he was on his knee. 

So yes, I was completely blindsided.

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