- 10 years ago
Hello engaged sisters.
Question for you!
Did you discuss marriage before you became engaged – or did his proposal completely blindside you?
We are 44. Our 1.5 years together has been an amazing, fun & EASY !! He’s never married, I’m divorced 10 years. No children.
He is extrodinary. His family is just wonderful & they have treated me like thier daughter in law from the day I met them! His parents have been happily married for 55 years. They even have a photo of me on their dresser! His sister told me I’m the first woman they have heard about in about 7 years. His friends are all married.
In 2 months we head to Portugal and Spain for 2 weeks for my 45th birthday. There’s all these little signs he’s preparing to propose… I’m guessing while we are in Europe. He booked us first class tickets. 🙂
Scenes on TV regarding engagement rings, weddings, etc… – he doesnt turn the channel. He recently asked if the 1 single ring I have EVER worn is Diamonds.? He is super doting, affectionate, loving, kind, and always trying to show me his domestic side. Now he is re-financing his house, and dealing with his 401k… lots of attention on his financials. And for the past year – been doing lots of cleaning up and cleaning out his home.
We talk about the future- but only in the concept of making plans to do something months down the road. I have made passing comments about ‘when we are old” -assuring him that I’m in it for the long run, but I have never brought up “marriage” either. He tells me he loves me daily & he was the first to make the confession!
Anyway- Just wondering how many of you were in a healthy, easy, meant to be replationship & he just wanted to completely surprise you by never having the discussion & flooring you with an out of the blue proposal?
A blindsided proposal is something his personality would do… and remember he’s 44. So a proposal for him would be a big deal having waitied so long to make such a decision, – ( while watching all his friends get married ).
I’m looking forward to your feedback & hearing your stories.
AND- I’m taking the trip without expectation– but a girl can hope– right? (There is a difference! )