Post # 1
What’s the polite/proper/standard way to handle getting rooms for your guests? Who pays for them? Most of our guests live anywhere from 1.5-3 hours away in various directions. I was planning to get a block of 4 rooms for 2 nights (rehearsal dinner night and wedding night) for our long-distance bridal party, and then probably 5 or so rooms for just the wedding night for our closer-distance guests that might not want to drive so far after 10 or 11.
I’m going to ask for my 3 bridesmaids to stay at the hotel at least after the rehearsal dinner to do manis and facials and girly stuff, and to get ready together the next day, but they do have closer relatives if they want to drive an hour+ after the wedding, but other than that, would I just book them and let people know they’re available? I have no idea how to book a block of rooms either.
If it makes a difference, the hotel will be anywhere from 50-80 dollars a night. (I wish they were better, but that’s what we have.)
Post # 2
We blocked rooms for the wedding night for guest .They paid to stay it like a 200 a night hotel my mother In laws choice. Also I booked a room to get ready in for me and my girls which I paid for .
Post # 3
Also t ok block rooms you just call up the hotel they usually give you a special rate and either you or your guest can pay for the rooms
Post # 4
when you call to block rooms they’ll give you the amount you have to gurantee. For us it was anywhere from 10 to 15 rooms at certain hotels. Blocking rooms means you get a special rate but you have to GUARANTEE that those rooms will be filled or you will have to pay for them. You’re guests coming from far away will pay for their own rooms but let them know you blocked out rooms at such and such a hotel so they can get the special rate. As for your bridesmaids. If you are requiring them to stay at the hotel so you can do mani pedis and “girly stuff” and to get ready. YOU pay for that. You dont make your girls pay for a hotel room you want them to have so you can get ready. That’s on you.
Post # 5
I got married in NYE so I wanted to make sure that people had a place to go if they drank too much. I blocked 20 rooms, but ended up needing closer to 40. I didn’t have to pay for anyone else’s room, and because so many people booked, I didn’t have to pay for my own room that night either. I did pay or shuttles to run to and from the venue that night though… Make sure if you are looking for a block that they don’t require you to pay for any rooms not booked.
Post # 6
Hey! I just got done doing this with one of the Marriott hotels- we RESERVED a block of room (for them, that usually consists of 10 rooms and they will add more if the initial 10 gets booked up).
They gave us a discount for all of the rooms (I think it was roughly 20% on the regular rooms) and I went ahead and booked their presidential suite (for $100 off) for my bridesmaids and I to get ready in and also that would be the room my SO and I would stay in after the wedding.
Most of our guests are local- 2 couples are not, but they are my cousins and will stay at my aunts house most likely. But all others live up to an hour away from the venue- so I am leaving it up to them.
The ones (out of my bridal party) that live closer to the hour mark, all said already that they will get a hotel room- the ones that are closer, probably won’t.
If you are making it mandatory that they stay at the hotel the night before the wedding, you should pay for the room. If it is not mandatory- they should pay.
Answers will be different depending on who you ask/where they are from- but that’s how it is where I am.
I was in a wedding once where the bride made it mandatory that we stayed with her the night before- she got a bigger suite and all the bridesmaids (including her- the bride) stayed the night. You could do that…
For doing the actual reserving of the rooms- call the hotel and tell them you want to reserve a block of rooms for your wedding. They will direct your call to whoever manages that.
Are you wanting to go ahead and book the rooms and pay for them yourself?
Post # 7
I was planning to do that anyways because it would be “mandatory”, but would it be rude to have them pay for the second night if they choose to stay?
I’ll be paying for my own king suite where we’ll hang out and get ready in (I live in town, but I’m going to pawn my daughter off on my fiance and have a night to myself as a wedding gift…yessssss! 🙂 )
Obviously, if they want to have girl time and then go stay with their families, they can just say so. I don’t really care where they sleep. I just figured it would be easier for them to roll out of bed, have some continential breakfast, and come back upstairs to hang out instead of driving back and forth. (They all have families with kids under 5, so the men could let the kids swim and such while the ladies are getting ready before the show.)
Post # 8
I’d rather not pay if I don’t have to. So basically, just securing a cheaper rate and having it available is “duty” enough? I think realistically, I’ll probably only need a total of 5 rooms, but 5 rooms at 80 dollars isn’t cheap along with everything else we’ll be paying for. (I calculated our budget last night…..its not pretty, haha)
and HECK NO! I’m getting a room to myself. I have a toddler, a fiance, a dog, and 4 cats. I’m have a pet-free and non-interrupted night, haha. They have a whirlpool in the suite, and I ain’t sharing! 😉
Post # 9
It’s ABSOLUTELY acceptable to have them pay for the second night. They should be paying for any nights not “required” by you.
Post # 10
There is no financial risk for you if you reserve a COURTESY hotel block. The hotel will save a bunch of rooms for you, and it’s up to your guests to reserve their rooms. After a certain deadline, whatever isn’t booked is just released back to the public. I would still reserve and pay for your bridal party’s rooms if you specifically want them to stay there with you.