(Closed) Blogging Bees: Anonymous or not?

posted 11 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 17
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1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Oakland Manor

I know I’m in a weird situation, but because I blog about things aside from my wedding on my personal blog (that Weddingbee pulls from) I’m semi-public/private.  So although each blog post I have links to my facebook account and people can see when I’ve written things, thats really more for non wedding related things. If there is a post I want to keep private then I send it directly to Pengy to be posted here (like my wedding dress). Or things I’d like to surprise our guests with I either send here or save the post till the appropriate time where I can’t ruin anything.

So I guess I send my more private posts here? Weird eh? My friends and family know I’m a Bee, but I think only my cousin and sister ever look occasionally look at Weddingbee.  

Post # 18
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1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

I know Sister Bruschetta follows along here, but I’m really not sure about the rest of our family/friends.  So, knowing that I CAN’T know everyone who’s out there reading, I try to be sensitive — and not post too much personal stuff that impacts others besides me. 

That having been said, hanging around the hive as an active reader/commenter for a year means a bunch of people "know" me — or at least my personal blog URL. 

I’m also going to do like Miss D’orsay (send posts directly to Weddingbee rather than putting them up on my personal blog, too) to protect the privacy of certain aspects of the wedding — surprises for our guests are fun, and I don’t want to ruin that!

Post # 19
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700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think I have decided on being anonymous to protect my ideas and bridal virtue!  🙂  I like to rant rather frequently, I’m afraid…

Post # 20
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have a personal blog that is NOT anonymous, but is locked so that only my few friends that I have invited can read it. It’s basically how we all keep in touch (although some of them are seriously slacking on the updating ^_^).

I have started a wedding blog but I need to srsly get with the program and update more regularly. It’s going to be semi-anon. I refer to me and Mr. Spin by our 1st initials and while I will talk about our cities here in the Midwest since it’s a big part in our relationship/planning process, I’m definitely not going to mention my occupation for the time being since I want to make sure they stay unaffiliated.

Post # 21
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229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Our home and the two acres it sits on

I’m semi-anonymous.  On WB, you see my picture with every post but can’t find my posts by searching for my full name.  That’s on purpose.

My "feeder" blog uses my full first name, and I’ve let MY immediate family know about it  (and his sister) but I don’t think his parents read anything I write.

He does… er, can (I don’t think he really does)… which is fine… it keeps me honest and kind, which is a good lesson for the real world anyway.  So, while I blog about taboo-ish topics (Twister, Brazil, divorce) I don’t say anything I wouldn’t repeat in mostly-public company in the real world.  That being said, I sure hope my Future Mother-In-Law isn’t reading about my brazilian wax.  I do try to warn immediate family if I post anything like that.

My brother reads both my feeder blog and WB, which I think is so freaking fantastic.  He’ll call and say, "Hey, so I see you’re freaking out about (insert any topic here).  Wanna talk?"  He’s so amazing.

The only thing I’m really set on is not having Google searches for my full name point here.  Employers have been known to do searches on candidates, and so have coworkers, and I’d rather not have the guys at work reading about how I can’t get my sh*t together to plan a wedding.  My posts here are written for a specific audience about a specific portion of my life.  For that reason, I wasn’t identified as a blogger when I was interviewed for a national article, which was very sad for me, but that’s how it had to be.

Post # 22
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s funny, but I consider my blog more private because I don’t really share it with all my family and friends, even though it’s open to the blogging world.

I don’t share my full name or addresses ever, but other than that my blog is pretty public.  With that said, I keep it mostly wedding related and very much not Miss Cheese-type posts(though I love them, Miss Cheese!!) because I’m afraid someone I know will read that and get the wrong impression of me.  I’ve avoided sharing my blog with my family and friends mostly because I want some parts of my wedding to be a surprise!

I do plan to have a "family" blog where I talk about more personal issues, stories and pictures, when I live 2000 miles from my family, to keep in touch.  I blog very differently depending on my audience–family and friends or strangers.  I don’t know how either style of blogging would be received from it’s non-intended audience!

Post # 23
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1 posts
Wannabee

This post really hit home for me when I first read it. I have a blog that is very public with great support from family, friends and e-friends. I liked keeping people updated on our lives but felt like I couldn’t really be totally myself or fully honest with my posts. I would keep coming up with post ideas and then scrap them because I was concerned about who would read it.

So, I just recently started a new, secret blog that I hope to keep totally anonymous, even from the hubs. I had so many great followers on my public blog but it all became too much!  Has anyone else felt like they had to go underground? 

Oh yeah…please stop by the new blog- The White Sheep

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My blog is a mix I guess.  I don’t refer to people’s real names, but most of my family and close friends read it.  Mostly I wanted to keep some annonymity because when I was a teacher, my high school students would get a kick out of googling my name and trying to find stuff, so I was very anxious about making sure they couldn’t find it.  I love having it as a way to keep everyone in my life (who wants to be) updated on the wedding planning and other stuff that’s going on.  But it’s nice not to have my real full name out there when random people stumble onto the blog.

Post # 25
Bee
11812 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

My family and friends know about my blog.  I don’t mention my or my FI’s names on there (we have pseudonyms), but I really enjoy having an audience to write to.  I think a lot of them enjoy it, so it makes it more fun.

Post # 26
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I just started a blog to keep my future Mother-In-Law and far-away friends and family updated on the wedding plans, so it’s very public. 

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