(Closed) Stay at home mom vs working mom?

posted 8 years ago in Parenting
Post # 77
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I’d definitely rather work than be a stay at home mother. Hands down every time. 

Post # 79
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

@country chic:  I wouldnt assume eveyone feels the way you do- i certainly do not have the dream to be a sahm.  I have several friends who regret it and will have a hard time resuming lapsed careers.  I don’t think you can tell anyone what their choice should be because it is deeply personal.   

Post # 80
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My mom has always been a working mom, and when my sister came home, she tried to be a Stay-At-Home Mom for awhile. After 3 months, she was like, ALRIGHT, I NEED A JOB NOW.

Now that we’re older and she hates her job a little bit, I think her plan is to quit working in a couple years.

Post # 81
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d work, regardless. my mother was a working mom and I think she did a beautiful job juggling two children.

Post # 82
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I never planned to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, it was just the natural choice for our family. Our daughter had health problems as an infant and I sort of just decided I wasn’t going to leave her with a sitter.

I don’t regret it, but it’s not for everyone!

Post # 83
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

When I was in college I rolled my eyes secretly at women who were getting degrees and planning on being SAHMs.  You can flame my 18-y-o self, I know I do!

Fiance and I have talked about it – he makes more than I do, and likely always will.  If we can swing it, the plan is for me to stay home, at least during the first year, and try to find something part-time after that or start my own business once the LO gets older.

I truly think it is up to each couple to decide what is best for their family.  I admire career moms, SAHMs, and every mom in between.

Post # 84
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Sunchick19:  I didn’t mean to come across as trying to tell people what to do, and if it came across that way, it was not intentional and I do apologize.

I am certainly not trying to start a debate because it is a personal decision, and maybe I did put my feelings into my post a bit too much.  If I was in a career or a job that I loved, maybe I would feel differently.

So again – sorry to all those that took my post the wrong way. 

Post # 85
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I just want to chime in that, for a friend of mine, it was cheaper to be a Stay-At-Home Mom than to work. She wasn’t making tons of money, but she was working ~30 hours/week as a receptionist and the cost for newborn/infant daycare was pretty much what she made in a month (+ all the stress of another stop to & from work with her daughter in kindergarten).

My mom worked at our school and it was great, we had vacations together but she got time away from us with other adults 😀

Post # 86
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

@country chic:  Oh no worries! That makes a lot of sense.  Some times I want to want to stay at home,  but it just wouldn’t work for me!

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