Post # 1
You ladies are really the only ones that I can blow off steam to and who will understand me when I do. So just as a warning…this is a bitch session 🙂
RSVPS: MAKE them people!! I mean WTF? I have at least 12 people that seemed to have dropped off the earth in the RSVP department. No word from them AT. ALL. My RSVP date came and went and I’ve tried contacting these slackers, but for the most part its answering machines and non-returned emails. I don’t care if you can’t come, but PLEASE let me know. I guess I’m assuming these slackers are a “Not Attending” but still, RUDE!
Low Attendence: I guess I shouldn’t be that surprised and for the most part its not fair to get upset about this, but truely I just need to get this off my chest. I invited over 120 people, I have 68 attending! That’s almost 50%!! I get really POed at the people that responded “oh definitely, we’re coming!” when I sent the Save the Dates, but then decided they can’t make it after all…BOO. I know, I know most of my close friends and family will be there and I AM marrying my best friend and that’s what really matters. But it just seems to be a waste of a big party if the attendence is that low :/
Anyway, are you gals dealing with any of this crapola? What other things are causing drama for you ladies as the date nears?? Word of wisdom?
Post # 3
I have no words of wisdom, but I understand your stress!
However, I’m on the opposite end of the guest list. I have too many people coming. I was forced into inviting people I didn’t even know, with the excuse “oh, they won’t come anyway”, but guess what, THEY’RE COMING. so. f-ing. frustrating.
I guess, if I were to have any words of wisdom, it would be to smile, nod, kill them with your mind, and move on. It’s almost over.
Post # 4
@.twist.: I like this ” smile, nod, kill them with your mind, and move on. It’s almost over. ”
I’m really in a similar place except now that people have RSVP’d they’re backing out, I’ve had 2 people say they’re coming and now probably won’t UGH, I already gave the caterer the number!
Post # 5
got you beat – 59 missing RSVPs AND my car just overheated and had to be towed. 3 weeks til the wedding. goody gumdrops.
Post # 6
@elliestan: That. Blows.
Also, got our final quote for the reception venue, totally $500 more than we talked about — yipee.
Post # 7
Gahhh that sucks @elliestan 🙁
There must be something about the 10/15 date that’s cursed, at least with RSVPs. I’ve had the same issues. Our deadline was a week ago, and we’re still waiting for at least 25% of our guests to respond. It’s just like…. seriously???? Check off a box and send the damn card back to me. It’s not that hard.
Post # 8
I am also 10/15 and our rsvp date was last saturday, missing 35%. We have been contacting people all week. We are only looking at 60% of invited coming.
Post # 9
missing about 10-12 people too. Everyone says “they lost” the RSVP. Actually got asked if I could resend the invitation to one woman so she knows the details. Oh well- it is what it is. I am also nervous about how many people are coming- I really was hoping for more no’s. Hoping the 10 will say no. haha!
Post # 10
@latebloomer: I hear you on the RSVPs! WTF?
AND I invited 157 people. Solid ‘yes’ from 69. Missing some RSVPs – but if the missing ones say yes, at best its 77. From what I learned, no response usually means no in my life, I think I’ll sign the final contract at 71 or 73. That’s less than a 50% yes rate. That number makes me sad.
Post # 11
Well, I was pretty lucky with rsvps getting a lot back, but then there are some people who tell me they won’t know till the last minute because of work or something like that. But seriously, I don’t want to tell the caterer a number with the slight possibility that you may go. Grr…