(Closed) blowing off some steam

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

That is pretty terrible!  I just responded to questions like by smiling and saying: "Oh, we have all that information written down somewhere, but I’m too excited about the wedding to remember it all!!"

Good luck!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’ve had RANDOM people ask me about my ring. The kicker was the man at the post office who had the nerve to ask how many carats it was! Um, really? I’m not sure what makes people feel like its ok to ask this. I think mainly, they are just curious and aren’t trying to appear rude. I know that doesn’t make it any better… 

But to be fair, I also have to thank my ring and all of its bling when another person was hitting on me (he didn’t notice my ring) and then all of a sudden said "Whoa, that ring there is bright and shiny. Its basically screaming to me "Back off, back off!" I just laughed… 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think they are just curious.  UNLESS they are making snarky comments or comparing it to somebody else’s ring.  If someone walked in with a HUGE diamond, my first natural question would be, "WHOA.  How many carats is that?"  It’s not rude.  But I definitely don’t think people should be asking how much the ring is worth.  That’s like asking someone how much they make.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t mind answering visible questions about it (karat weight and carat of the diamond) because I feel like people are just trying to make polite conversation. However, I intentionally do not know how much he spent on my ring and most people don’t believe me! I know that he selected my diamond as a loose stone and chose the setting for it, so I tell them that is as much as I know. People just love to sneak in rude questions, don’t they?

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

This weekend at a wedding show, a girl I talked to in line told me it looked like my fiance spent too much money on a ring! I just said I wouldn’t know and tried to move on.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Carat weight, cut and color is reasonable if you know the person, but otherwise I think it is pretty nosy. Don’t read into it, people are weird. 🙂

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

The only thing one should say when shown the engagement ring is "How beautiful!"

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I’m not sure if I’d feel that bad about someone asking about carat, or maybe where he got it, but price is too nosy.  I hear what you’re saying, catrelle.  If it was huge, it almost begs peole to ask about it.  But if it’s average sized, (like mine), it’s kind of weird.

As you said, mostly women asked.  I got that too.  I think a lot of times they’re trying to size it up compared to theirs.

@Crash, how strange about the girl who said you’re Fiance spent too much money.  How would she know?  She was most likely jealous of your ring.  I suppose it might be natural to be jealous of someone else’s huge rock.  But to try to bring someone else down to make yourself feel better is just bad ballet.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

isn’t it strange how people forget their manners sometimes?  ugh!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I suppose people just do not think about it cause they are the kind of people that wouldn’t think twice if the question was asked to them. Which it most likely was! I’m glad to say no one has asked me how much mine was but, that is because it is pretty small (.5), not that it means anything cause its the quality that counts. Anyway no matter what happens in your life people will always have awkward questions that they feel the need to ask! 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I did not have anybody ask the value or size of my diamond.  It’s actually pretty good sized, and it’s a fancy yellow.  I did have a number of people ask "What kind of stone is that?"  I have had (in a year and a half now) exactly three people recognize it as a diamond – most people indicate they didn’t know there were yellow diamonds.  (Interesting.)

I wonder if this isn’t more common because of where you live.  I live in the Pacific Northwest, and I find that people here, and on the west coast in general, are pretty comfortable asking, for instance, how old you are.  They seldom ask how much money you make, or what you paid for something.  However, I’ve worked on the east coast as well, and people back east seem pretty comfortable asking how much money you make (shocking to me, as I would never consider actually telling them).  My sister went to college in the south, and her in-laws live there, and she tells me that in the south you never ask a woman her age – which is not considered rude at all out here – it’s something people ask when they barely know you.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Just before we bought my ring, I was asking a lot more of the detail questions of people whose rings I loved.  No one took it offensively,  because it was all in the context of "hmm, what should we get…"

It’s all in how people phrase it, but I think sometimes we lose sight of how we come off in conversation… It all sounds perfectly polite in your head (except for maybe the women who say the ring cost too much or what it appraised for– I have a hard time coming up with excuses for that stuff;)

Post # 16
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Newbee

LOL…I understand that such questions may be considered invasive of one’s privacy and impolite, but I’ll have to confess that I sometimes guilty of such a charge!  Usually, when I inquire or ask such "rude" questions, certainly I don’t intend or mean to come off that way and cause an awkward situation.  I would only ask such questions to those whom I assume are "social and friendly" based on how engaging and comfortable they appear in the conversation and I’ll only ask if I were impressed and "wowed" by the size and beautiful quality of their rings.  I guess I’m asking such questions more based on a rhetorical sense and don’t really expect an answer unless it were freely offered.  Those questions are meant to convey my feelings of being amazed and imprsssed by ther rings and not because I’m jealous or nosy…okay…maybe on a subconscious level! LOL

Usually my questions are along the following lines:

"Wow!! How big is that diamond/stone?"  (I once thought a diamong ring on a particular woman was extremely big and beautiful (so shiny) but was soooo surprised when she told me it was less than a carat! I generally assume big-looking stones to be more than a carat but I learned it depends on cut and clarity.)

"Wow!  That’s such a beautiful and huge rock….it must have cost a fortune?!"  (Again, everyone’s standard of "fortune" is different.  I learned that another girlfriend’s ring was nearly 30K, which to me, IS a fortune, but to her, it was nothing.)

 

 

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