(Closed) BM a no show

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m shocked.  Why did you choose her to be your MOH?  It doesn’t seem like she was very interested in your friendship.  I say ‘dump’ her and know that she is not the kind of person you want to be friends with.

Post # 4
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh my gosh! I can’t believe someone would do this!! Who does that sort of thing?! I totally understand why you are angry!

Post # 5
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636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow! Is there any more to the story? Was there some kind of argument before the wedding? Did you have any inclination that there was a problem? Regardless, she is the worst and you should dump her and never look back. I’m sorry that happened! 

Post # 6
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1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh. My. God. WTF??? I’m speechless. Honestly, I don’t know what I would do, but it wouldn’t be pretty.

Post # 7
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46335 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You have every reason to be upset.

Please remember though, this has nothing to do with you.

Unfortunately, it was you that was hurt by her tremendous character fault.

Post # 8
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That is awful! Well at least she isn’t in any of your pictures and every time you see them you won’t see her and resent her and the photos. I just kicked my Maid/Matron of Honor to the curb and I still get a burny feeling in my stomach every time I think of her.

Post # 10
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m so sorry that happened! How awful!

Post # 11
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

wow, I would want to know why.  Maybe if you get an answer from her that would give you closure.  This is so aweful.

Post # 12
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3167 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

what… a… bitch!! i’m sooooooooooo sosososososososo sorry you had to deal with that, it’s a selfish person that does something like that to a “friend”. i can’t believe it – i mean, my friend’s bm dumped her the week before the wedding because they had a falling out but she has no reason. i have no advice other than with time things will get better. 🙁

Post # 13
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636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe you could send her a letter for some closure? I might explain how worried you were about her, and how hurt you were to find out about her trip on FB and say you wish she could have just talked to you instead of standing you up on such an important day. 

Was there an issue with the new boyfriend? Was he invited to the wedding or did she ask if he could come? Believe me, there is nothing you could have done to deserve this but I am just grasping at straws trying to figure out why she would do this!

Post # 14
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1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

OMG!  That’s hideous!!!  I’m SO sorry this happened to you!

I’m generally a non-confrontational person, however I feel like I would need to confront this girl and put her in her place.  If she’s not answering her phone when you call, well… maybe you should post a message on her facebook wall.  Something along the lines of:

“Since you won’t answer my calls, I figure this is my only way of contacting you.  What I want to know is, why did you think that as my maid of honour, it was OK to not show up on my wedding day and instead go away on holiday?”

Or something along those lines…

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i have never heard of this happening before, wow. I wouldnt even bother to talk to her anymore,

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